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I have 3 kids. 9yr and 5-year-old boys and a 1 yr old girl. Every child is different. My oldest, it took him 1 month to adjust with both younger siblings. My middle guy, it took him 2 months. What does dad think or grandma? If he needs time to adjust, that's ok. They don't realize how much adding a baby can do to everything. But, my tip is consistent, and follow through. I find their kryptonite depending on the kid and what's going on. I take away something that means something to them. When they get out of pocket, they can sit in their room for a time-out minutes by age. Later in the day, I take 5 minutes from bedtime, and it has added up to 15 minutes early. I remind them constantly actions have consequences.
I’ve always been worried about him feeling left out. I breastfeed so baby is literally on me all day. I have planned dates with just my oldest and I try my best to play with just him everyday but it is so hard. My husband thinks I need to be more stern. Me and my mother had a very bad disconnect when I was a child and even though we are the best of friends now I just want to be the mom I wish I had.
And I totally understand that!!! I parent way different than my mother and she always tells me I need to be more strict so you’re not alone, you’re doing great!
@Geneva I breastfeed all 3. Again it's an adjustment for everyone. You can give him time and see where things go and adjust along the way. I actually parent similar to my mom. But so far so good. My husband is stricter but he has 3 brothers so he saw more than I did with an older brother and sister.😂
@Krystal well there is a difference to many with consistent and strict/structure.
What are the directions he isnt following?… some suggestions : make things FUN ( when its clean up time - say “im gonna start my timer for 2mins, if you clean up all your toys before the alarm goes off - you get a sticker, pick the movie, etc). Sometimes giving a child directions can feel like a punishment or chore. So you gotta add some spice to it, (make it exciting, make a joke, sing a song when brushing his teeth, etc) Example: when i pick my son up from school , as we’re walking toward my car i ask him which car is mine, ill say “the red one?” He laughs “the gray one?) he laughs, then he’ll direct me to our car.
Mine can act out more and listen less when they have tablets too much.
Thank you @Jasmine I will try to make take more fun for him. I know I didn’t like cleaning my room at that age either. @Marcia im actually starting to think that’s what it is. We put him on a time limit so I’m going to see if that helps
It may just be his way of getting out his jealousy, sometimes when I spend too much time with my other kiddos my 5 year old acts out or picks fights with me for attention. With a new baby I know it’s extra hard but try to make sure his attention needs are being met or include him in things with the baby like grabbing diapers or feeding If that’s an option.