My husband doesn't seen to take our future seriously Should I leave ?

He won't save money, He won't get life insurance He doesn't want to buy a house for stable living condition We've got 500 in the bank right now and that's going to pay bills. I talk to him about it and he says we'll be ok, God will provide. We been married 11 years and it's not getting better.
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This is way more complicated than yes, leave or no, stay. You have some things to think about to help you decide. You don't need to answer these on here but in your own mind... 1st off... Which country do you live in and do they provide support for single parents? I ask as you didn't mention if you work or if it's just your husband that does. 2nd... Are you in love with this man? If no... this is much easier to "solve" in a lot of ways. If yes... time to start thinking about having serious discussions with him where religion doesn't breed stupidity in him. I know a lot of religious people (used to be myself) but anyone who believes that thinks God will provide with no effort from themselves is just daft... he needs to be realistic. If he went by that logic then noone would ever die in this life because God would protect them... the fact is... if he believes he needs to also know that even with God bad things still happen so burying his head in the sand about a financial dilemma and hoping God will swoop i

In and save him isn't guna work.

3rd... Decide what you actually want... not just from a relationship, but from your life and future. I don't know if you have kids but if assuming you do (as you're on peanut) then what type of future do you want for them? What values do you want to instill?

No relationship ever falls into the category of "stay no matter what" because that would mean no matter how badly you're treated etc you should stay and that's just so daft. We live in a world where for every person who'd mess us about in a relationship there are many more who wouldn't.

4th... Do you like this person enough (not love but like) to want to make it work... as in... are they still someone you want to spend time with? If so. Consider the types of non negotiables you would need to put in place to take the relationship from where it is now, to where you want it to be. The must haves and the must not haves. Would he be willing to go along with them? Would there be wiggle room? There's a lot to think about and this is just the start but I hope this gives you somewhere to start.

@Sami Yes this is all helpful thank you

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