My kid pays zero attention (how to get her to listen and concentrate)?

First of all Mama take a breath, slow down and take a step back. Every child is different and learn at different stages that's for starters. Second contact someone who can see your little one so you can see if they do have ADHD then this way you will be able to know how to approach things, it's best to see someone as soon as you can that way you will know and stop putting such a mental strain on yourself. Hang in there Mama 🥰

They learn with play. Like, unforced play.. Fun play. Does she have a lot of toys available in her room? Too many can be overwhelming causing them to jump from one thing to the next - they get over stimulated easily. Have a few toys available, rotate weekly. Also, she's 2.. They're still exploring, learning, developing. They don't have the attention span that I feel you're expecting. Cut down on her available toys/play items, and see what happens. Jumping to ADHD is wild at this age, over stimulation sounds more like the cause of your concern.

@Heather she has fun tons of it unforced. But I think it’s reasonable to expect her once a week for 5 min to sit with me and say 1,2,3 :D I try to make it fun for her and sing it or do our own dance and she just won’t have it. She does have a big playroom and a lot of toys but we keep all toys in cabinets so they aren’t visible. I put 5 toys on top of the toy organizers for her to play with and I rotate them. She won’t play with any for more than 2-3 seconds. She will be 3 in January. We have a lot of friends her exact age and I can see they concentrate 1000 times better and sit and play and I feel like I’m looking at their kids that are just so normal and mine is a complete opposite. She’s hyper and just wants to run, play, jump and you just can’t stop her for a second. We call her our little typhoon :D I love her to death but I just need her from time to time to sit and start and finish just 1 activity.

@Rhiannon Yeah we have an appointment with the pediatrician in January and will go from there. And I’m pretty sure it’s ADHD as she acts just like my husband(my MIL says she’s even more hyper than him). We would give her a cookie or something sweet and suddenly she will calm down and focus.

Well that's good I hope you can get to the bottom of it, but don't stress about it too much till your appointment

my daughter is 2 and a half and just like this. i can’t even count to 10 with her as she moves on gets distracteda by number 3 she’s definitely behind in things she learns a little bit and it’s purely down to me not being able to keep her attention as long as it’s needed. and it’s always been noticeable, i remeber at play groups , other moms used to politely comment ‘ you’ve got your hands full’ while they sipped their tea and i had an upside down child on my neck😂😂 i feel your struggle i try and do things physically with her. eg when she was learning numbers i made cards 1-10 and she had to run to them to find the right one. things physical where she could be moving or wiggling helped keep her focused on the thing we was doing as she still was getting her energy out lol

@Shannon Haha I feel you. Once we went to gymnastics and no one else showed so the coaches were like “Hey give us to us and you rest”…3 coaches trained with her and 30min later returned her and said “Idk how you do it she’s a battery bunny” :D You’re giving me a great idea. Today I watched a TikTok where parents wrote numbers on sticky notes and spread them around the house and the kid had to run, find them and glue them on top of the corresponding number/letter on the board. Thank you! I’ll definitely try your approach and hope it helps. :)

You gotta make it fun. Let her pick the song. Or any activity. It’s most likely just her age. Also, she’s definitely not gonna clean her room but instead just ask her to pick up a few things while you do it. I was trying to help my son learn to draw a candy cane today and it was a total bust lol. So annoying but when he went to daycare he learned new things every single day. I be getting down on myself too but they’re learning whether we see it or not. Just sing the song and dance everyday, all of a sudden you’ll catch her singing it.

@Cassie I always make it fun. That’s not the problem. She’s hyper. Last night her dad tried to play a game with her involving 1-2-3 and he couldn’t keep her attention for a second she just kept rolling on her head on the ground from gymnastics. O she cleans her room when she’s at grandma without repeating(confirmed by my SIL too) so it’s just playing tricks here knowing it will pass. Everyone else I know at this age picks after themselves when asked. It’s not like I’m asking from her to pick up 2000 pieces. She’s allowed just 1 type of game out at a time so all she has to do is put everything in the bin. She does love drawing and that’s the only thing that can get her attention but still not following instructions like let’s draw a line or color this circle red with the dot marker, just wants to scribble but that’s kinda normal.

Maybe look into her artificial due consumption. It's a rabbit hole, but people have seen attention improvements by omitting them (they're everywhere). My girl (2yr 9m) loves Easter egg and scavenger hunts. I put letters in the eggs and when she finds an egg, we match it up on a laminated alphabet sheet that I made. Movement, interactive, letter recognition/ phonics. When we go on walks or to the grocery store, I have laminated sheets for her to find things and mark it off. You can spell the item, count the apples. 🤷‍♀️

Oh, and low vitamin d has been linked to ADHD. Their appetites can be all over the place, so if you're not supplementing vitamins, that's worth looking into.

@Heather Those are some really nice ideas thank you! I have a laminator so will definitely steal some of your ideas. :) We don’t give her anything with dyes just because of the reason you stated and we do give her a multivitamin the pediatrician prescribed. Also we do have a big back yard with a playground so we’re out for 1-3h a day no matter if it’s warm or cold so her vitamin d should be good i hope.

Mine was like this at 3. It’s most likely adhd . She is still like this at 4 and most people don’t understand because at that age it is normal to an extent but this is something I could have written about my daughter. At 3 a psychologist said it was most likely adhd due to me and my mom having it and based on the assessment. It’s not ethical to diagnose at that age so we’re trying again now that she’s 4.5 in a few weeks . For cleaning I help some but I also give her specific tasks.. pick up all your clothes and place them in the hamper and I’ll pick up a few and she’ll do the rent, now let’s pick up all your stuffies etc also don’t get out or allow access to alllll toys or she’ll get overstimulated and just keep going from toy to toy. I used one of my daughters closet as toy storage and kept a lock on it otherwise she’d take them all out and it’s chaos. Do a toy rotation every other week or so. Praise her for helping clean I know it’s frustrating but just breathe

And try not to repeat too much give her some time to process. Give her time frames even though she can’t tell time just set a timer or get a hourglass at dollar tree and say when the sand all goes down we’re going to start cleaning up. It’ll take time and it’ll still be a battle for a bit but it gets easier

@Heather this is a GREAT idea with the Easter eggs. I would have never thought of this. My mom used the grocery store to teach us reading and math at that age but I’m still amazed how she had us reading by 2 because I cannot get that part done 😅 the way the way you explained helps