I don’t know what to do

Define physical.

@Wendi it stared as pushing and turned into me throwing punches and him kicking me

Well legally whoever strikes first would be one the police would file the report against. So if it might have been you don’t report. Even a simple shove. He shouldn’t have put his hands on you, but neither should you have put your hands on him. I think both of you may benefit from a physical break and set up a session with a therapist to see how you may want to navigate going forward, if at all.

@Patience he was sitting on the couch and got in my face so I pushed him back down onto the couch to get him out of my face and then he pushed me across the living room and that is when I threw the punches. I am in no way saying I was right because I was not right. I feel like shit and I just don’t know what to do.

Idk your financial situation. If therapy is too much for you. Find a family FRIEND or a middle man type of person that usually has sound advice. Sit down somewhere that is comfortable to talk and just say everything on your chest in front of each other but don't actually talk to one another till you're both done

@Wendi nah. Both people go to jail when this happens. If both people want to press charges they both go to jail. I’m also assuming they have kids so Cps gets involved for DV around minors .

@Nichelle no they don’t. depending on the state, only the person who hits first goes to jail. And most states have that law. It’s not always both parties. Speaking from personal experience.

@Nichelle also speaking from personal experience even with DV where both parents do get picked up, it’s just a holding cell and they ask the parents if there is anyone else who can take them before calling cps. Stop fear mongering

It doesn’t matter who hit who first. A lot of intense steps would need to happen for both of you, individually moving forward. I would seek therapy for yourself first maybe. I wouldn’t tell family/friends not out of shame but because there will be bias and once you open up your relationship details to people close to you they’re going to see your marriage/ partner in a different light

@Wendi never heard of that. But statistics show the victim is more likely to be arrested or both if the police believe ie bruised scratches that both parties hit each other. Huh… I’m saying police report to Cps because it’s failure to protect and that’s a law in every state. They only remove children if they keep going back to an abuser because it’s extremely harmful for children to witness or be in an abusive home. No one is fear mongering. It’s a pretty well known thing because it usually punishes victims for reaching out. Must be bleakto live in denial

@Nichelle I’m not living in denial because like I said I’m speaking from experience. Police aren’t gonna call CPS just because of adults fighting in the home. And victim or not the first person to hit is seen as the aggressor and is this the one to get arrested. People like to think they know the law, but don’t until they find themselves in situations. You’re triggered because someone told you that you are wrong. Must be sad to be so sensitive.

@Nichelle but then again. You said you never heard of that. So I don’t know why you are so pressed about something you clearly just said you don’t know about.🤣🤣🤣