I feel like an awful mommy 😭

I'm a stay at home mom, 28 weeks pregnant, and of course have my 19 months old. My husband works from 5am-7pm, so I'm alone all day every day. Things are getting tough for me over here. My little girl bolts any time I try to change her diaper. It's a battle of screaming, rolling around, and taking off. I'm having to chase and carry her back to the changing area. I cannot lift her anymore. She weighs 33 pounds and she's tall for her age (99 percentile). That's only half of it. She's in a climbing phase, throwing phase, and tantrum phase. Everything defiant. She's intelligent and has a very good understanding of everything said to her and explained to her. If I tell her to sit, she sits. If I tell her to close a door behind her, she will walk over to close it. I love her more than anything, but I snapped today and I scared her. I made my sweet baby cry. During her diaper change (explosive poop #3 because her Mimi gave her too much fruit and cheese) I yelled "No ma'am" very loudly until it just turned into a very aggressive and loud "NO". She froze and her face slowly changed to an expression of heartbreak. I've been short with her and it's truly unfair. I'm struggling physically mentally, and emotionally. She is bored and needs activity, but I don't have the energy left in me to take her to the park daily as I used to. I know she needs to burn off her energy. I worry about how things will be when our baby boy is born. I don't want her to feel less loved or neglected. I love her so much that my heart just aches. I can't believe that I yelled at my baby today. She's only 1.5 years old :'( I feel like I'm failing as her mommy. I'm so sad.
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Don’t feel bad! I am in the same boat as you right now (except I gave birth on Veterans Day. It’s hard but if and when you can just take a breathing break for yourself. Explain to your baby that you are upset and need to take a breathing break or that you need some alone time. When my son throws his tantrums I tell him to breathe and ask if he needs a hug. If he is hitting during his tantrum then I move him to an area with books and stuffed animals and I tell him that he needs to calm down. He usually does fairly well with this. I also got him a Montessori indoor playground that I let him climb on to burn some of his energy.

Ahh it’s okay to feel that. Im the same with you, also pregnant with baby no2 (boy as well) and she just has these crazy tantrums, just getting harder over time. Best if to just take her out, just to let off stream.

Please don’t feel bad. You’re doing the best you can. Also, we can’t expect to not yell here and there. That doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom. That baby will be fine. And it’ll get better when baby is here since you’ll be in a better place physically. Hopefully in a better place mentally and emotionally as well. I have a 19 month old and an almost 3 month old and thank GOD we are managing. I was sooo uncomfortable pregnant I would cry from pain. I was exhausted in so many ways. But we’re doing ok now!

I’m in the same boat ! I’m 35 weeks and my daughter is 18m. It’s getting HARD.. she has been very clingy lately and literally just had a meltdown (COMPLETE MELTDOWN) because I wouldn’t sit on the floor w her while she played. My back hurts too much to sit on the floor anymore. It was exhausting to hear the crying and whining… and when I took a moment to go to the bathroom to give myself a break I thought- OMG this is probably exactly what it’s going to be like when the baby is here 🥺.. idk love I don’t have much advice other than solidarity and knowing that it can’t last forever.. I’ve spoke to other moms w 2 under 2 and once you get past those first 1-3 months things get easier…

Solidarity here too, but 19 weeks pregnant. My daughter is so spirited and energetic and I have been very sick this pregnancy no energy. I’m trying not to let the guilt eat me, and everyone encourages me it’s just a season and it will pass. I never wanted to be a mom that yells at all, but being pregnant there are days I feel like I’m barely surviving and my patience is nearly nonexistent. I have no advice, but if I ever get frustrated or raise my voice at all, I make sure to apologize and model that to her. Also what helps us a little is to walk around the neighborhood. We don’t have to drive anywhere and deal with that. My daughter walks too. It’s a very slow walk but she is thrilled to pick up rocks or sticks and point out the birds and planes. And because she’s only 20 months, a couple blocks is a lot of walking for a little one and not much for me. The end is in sight, you can do it!!

i just gave birth to our second 2 weeks ago and our kids are exactly a 2 years apart. it gets better!! our little ones adjust so well and baby sleeps enough and you get your mobility back that honestly this is easier than pregnancy with a toddler. hang in there!!! i was in your exact shoes

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