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Some men turn to gaming as a stress reliever. He may be going through a depression and the game is his escape. No excuse to ignore his duties though. You should have a conversation with him.
@breanna I’ve tried but it’s like he dosent see it idk how to get him to open his eyes I even told him if it keeps up like this we can’t stay together but he doesn’t take it seriously idk what to say to him to get him to realize I’m serious I need a partner not a bum 😭
@Fedele I’ve thought about that too but I’m depressed and overwhelmed and I can’t keep doing it all alone I just want him to do his part
Agree with first post. He needs to step up otherwise you'll be gone
Well then I’d leave. Show him you’re serious. If he peruses you then he wants to change if he doesn’t then leave him to become an actual bum
Hey, talk to him about his mental health. It sounds like he’s got some serious depression. Postpartum depression can also affect dads too.
Always put yourself forts & it is okay when you do. Parenting is super challenging and you want to show up as your best self!! When we put up with BS- our children see it and feel it despite their silence. No child will be upset if you chose thyself because it makes you happy and a better parent and partner.
Set your expectations. Tell him what you need as a father and a fiancée (potential husband atm) he needs to step up. Tell him that him not pulling is weight in the family I had made you see him differently and if he doesn’t step up you might really consider splitting up -although you don’t want to, you need something to change. If he even seems interested in personal growth for you and your babies sake, split up the chores, and responsibilities. Let me tell you my man woke me up today after working all night, get our toddler dressed, drove me to the vet (I don’t drive), took us out to eat, went over to his parents, then me and him went back to wrap presents for Christmas (and he still wanted to do stuff in the bedroom although I had to turn him down this time) , went to bed after 3pm, and had to wake up at 9:30 for work. He use to be subpar, completely awful but he shaped up. If my man can any man can. If he wanted to he would. Let him know!