Gentle parenting?

And just to add this toddler was only 22 months. And I’ve seen other videos and this woman is raising an amazing kid, so crazy smart & polite

And there is a big difference between this and permissive parenting (not doing shit when your kid misbehaves)

Yes all for it but I also take videos like that with a grain of salt because all. children. are. different. I can do that exact same thing with my toddler and depending on his mood he will just continue to hit me and maybe try to bite. I think comments like those are disgusting but some kiddos need a Bit more firm talking to/ it wouldn’t just resolve like that did in the video

I agree with @Allie. I'm all for gentle parenting but some children need a bit more stern approach. I learned this a lot while working in a childcare center. Most of the kids responded great to the gentle approach. But there's always going to be those kids that rebel who need you to be firm. It's frustrating because I don't like it. Lol. I feel like I'm being mean but then my fellow teachers say that I was mean, just stern.

I think I saw that exact same video! From the looks of it it's something that's definitely been taught over time, like continous re-enforcement which is what any kind of discipline is really. I'm trying to teach my 15 month old gentle hands and it's a hit and miss process, sometimes he gets it and sometimes he'll just carry on doing it🤷🏼‍♀️ but some children do 100% need a little more. I don't agree with smacking or anything like that but some children just need a firmer approach

@Adrianna gentle parenting isn’t just being like super soft and sweet when they’re behaving inappropriately. it can be stern and firm it’s literally just not verbally/physically abusing the child. when my toddler hits me i say “OUCH! no hitting mama, you can hit_____” and then he hits that and then i say “and you use gentle hands with mama” and then he like pets me gently and hits whatever other object if he still wants to

@sydney yes perfect example of gentle, not permissive parenting! I really think people get them mixed up so much

@sydney oh, for sure! I didn't explain it very well. I definitely do that. Lol

Unfortunately my child is wild and gentle parenting doesn’t always work 😅 but we use it when we can!

I think it depends on the child’s personality. I don’t hit my kid but I will give him a slight pop on the hand or butt not hard but enough to break his concentration and redirect him. As Allie said my toddler will keep hitting me if I tell him to stop. Their are days I’ve told him to stop splashing the dog water more than 10 times that day and he still keeps doing it so I have to be a bit more firm. I tell my second child to stop in a nice voice and he starts crying. My husband legit says his mom was too gentle on him and he should have been spanked. Each kid is different. Some kids take a conversation and some need a punishment.

@Justice it’s actually illegal to smack your children where I live

I LOVE gentle parenting for most kids! I think when people "try" and think it doesn't work, it's because the just don't understand how to follow through and the level of consistency it takes

Some people honestly expect their kids to behave better than they can

I think that social media does a really bad job of representing gentle parenting. The way I gentleparent my kids is to thoroughly explain things to them. Even if you think your kid can't understand what you're talking about, you say it to them anyway. It also doesn't mean always using a soft calm voice. Sometimes you need to express with a child is doing wrong and your tone is a great way for them to decipher whether or not their actions were acceptable. If my son hit me I would say in a stern tone "no we don't hit. Mommy doesn't hit you because I know it would hurt you, so you shouldn't hit mommy because you don't want to hurt Mommy."

there’s always comments like that on gentle parenting videos i see. they just don’t get it and are quick to judge i think

I think ppl wanna take the “easy” way out by smacking their kid and using fear as a tool. Or they get defensive when they see something like this working bc they can only get their child to listen by being abusive. Im all for gentle parenting. When you do it right. Most people don’t even know what gentle parenting is. They get it confused with permissive parenting

I thought you were going to comment on another video going around of a little girl, maybe 3 years old. Hitting mom, pushing her, even threw a chair at her and mom is very cool, calm…too much. Not setting any boundary, being firm, etc. and definitely not gentle parenting correctly. I think people see that and assume that is gentle parenting and obviously don’t have very good opinions about it.

@Justice you smack your 1 year old?

@Justice gentle parenting is more than just telling your kid to stop - you have to follow through without hitting back. If they're hitting, follow through could be backing out of reach, holding his hands and saying "I can't let you hit me", or giving him something he can hit. And when he's calm, you work on emotional regulation skills so you can replace hitting with a more appropriate behavior when he does get upset. I think people commonly mistake gentle parenting for using a soft voice and asking nicely, but it also includes firm boundaries, remaining calm, taking their feelings and ideas into consideration, and following through after the FIRST time you ask. If they don't start (or stop) what you ask within like 30 seconds, always walk up to them and follow through. It takes a lot of work, but it's definitely worth it.

@Marisa no amount of telling my oldest son who is almost 2 to stop works. He legit blatantly ignores me when I talk to him. He is very hard headed and I have to be way more firm with him than my almost 1 year old who cries at everything. Some kids talking to them does not work.

@Georgina I don’t really smack I more lightly bop his hand away and he’s almost 2 and I really only bop is hand away after being told not to do something more than 5 times.