I feel like crying, is this normal behaviour?

You have got this. Go shopping alone! Make a list of everything you need to get prior in order such as: Veg: - Carrots - Broccoli Meat: - Chicken Stay organised+focus on your list x

Depends on what you said to him that upset him? We don’t know that information so it is hard to judge without

@Sophie we've been having problems with my ex, since he's found out I've met someone else. Ex turned up yesterday for our daughter & had a new car. I didn't tell him when my ex picked daughter up.

The dude had no right to get mad at all

His behaviour is unacceptable. I would go and do the shop on my own. However if he didn’t have a decent explanation for drinking all night when he was meant to be doing the big shop the next day I would be thinking this isn’t a relationship that’s going to work for me.

You were being thoughtful not telling him that at work. His reaction to how you told him was not ok. But definitely go shopping without him. Don’t let him ruin this for you. Unfortunately some people when they know you have a big plan/day coming up they tend to sabotage it by throwing fits right before it… sooo just in case that’s what he’s doing don’t let his tantrum change your plans. And if it’s not what he’s doing then he should understand why you left without him. Cuz this is important to you. And he better help you unload the car when you get home for being such a king baby over this 👀

Okay he is being unreasonable! I’d just go shopping without him

Sorry have I got this right he’s got annoyed your ex has a new car?

Doing a big shop also makes me anxious. Put some headphones in, stick to your list, and enjoy nobody shoving sweets in your basket and asking for stuff haha. On the other part, yes he's being immature and silly. He needs to grow up.

@Siobhan there's a bit more to the story he's not angry he's got a new car, he's angry I didn't tell him he had a new car - I'm currently dealing with police etc because of exs behaviour and I get anxious going out incase I see the ex - his mum & dad are meant to be pick ups/drop offs - yesterday his mum collected but ex drove - I noticed he had a new car & didn't tell partner straight away.

I'd be annoyed but I'd still do the shopping, like you said, you shouldn't let him ruin Christmas for you. Take your time, don't feel pressured to get it all done today and just do the bits you want to do or feel up to doing. Let him sulk.

Don't let him spoil your day.

I don’t get what he’s pissed at. Yeah the guys got a new car what’s it to him?

I don’t know why you’d need to tell him he had a new car in the first place my husbands ex got a new car I wouldn’t be annoyed he didn’t mention it. Nothing to do with me.

All I’m getting from this is your partner seems a bit controlling the fact he’s got annoyed over something so minor and now having a tantrum about it.

I'm so confused over this. Firstly, why do you need to tell him your ex has a new car in the first place? What is he exactly mad at here? If you've been with this guy 6 months, I'd stop seeing him. Things will only get worse he seems to be controlling

Even if he came, it probably wouldn’t be enjoyable make it a mission girl you got this💪 put on a playlist in the car and talk to yourself if you feel alone I used to like errands alone

Why would you need to tell him that immediately? then he can’t even just discuss it with you? he chooses to stay up all night drinking? Then shutting himself off from you in another room. It sounds like you have 2 very difficult men in your life. Really think about the sources of your anxiety, and whether life could improve with some healthy boundaries and decisions. In terms of today - go do the shopping - and make yourself enjoy the day out. Go to a cafe, get yourself cake and coffee, take deep breaths - make yourself feel some sense of relief. Then make a point of enjoying Christmas with your family. I hope you have a confidante in your life who you can talk to about the dynamics of this - b’cos it sounds like it’s causing you avoidable stress and anxiety. Hope things improve for you……. the person you’re choosing to be in a relationship with should not be making you feel like crying - You’re only 6 months into this - shouldn’t be like this (ever) but def not at 6months

The fact he’s got a new car is none of his business why does it matter. Sounds like you’ve got yourself a man child. Tell him if he doesn’t come shopping he can find somewhere else to eat Xmas day. I think you should re consider this relationship because he sounds toxic

It sounds like your partner is mad you saw ex that you shouldn’t have seen and you didn’t tell him right away. My husbands ex always called him when I wasn’t around and she knew I wasn’t around. While I don’t think anything weird happened I told him it looks bad he only talks to her when I’m not around. Based on this it could look like your hiding the fact you saw your ex you shouldn’t have seen cause it should have been exs mom or dad and didn’t tell him right away which could seem like you weren’t gonna tell him. Guys do overthink like women do. Since you’ve had problems with your ex the police are involved in not sure why maybe he could be justified in being upset you saw ex by yourself.

Don t let a 6 months relationship guy ruin your Xmas. It's totally not normal behavior and I would seriously reconsider the relationship

I was mad at my husband today so I went shopping alone. Drove to the shop with my shopping list, put my headphones in and had a great time.

Ok even if I think the reason is stupid to get upset, it’s not up to me to say it. So he can be annoyed and it’s a fair emotion, but to act like 3 years old isn’t. So I’ll totally go to get my shopping alone, organizing myself

This behavior seems very controlling. You had to tell him immediately or he would be pissed?! Wtf. And now he is having some self indulgent pity party when you’re supposed to be preparing for Christmas? Do you really want to be in a relationship like this? Go out and try to have a good time shopping! Treat yourself to some coffee and cake and don’t let him ruin your day.

Given the behaviour you are already having to deal with from your ex by the sounds of things, this one doesn't sound much better.

Sorry I pressed the wrong one.. Yes hes being unreasonable!!! Xx

I am trying to understand why he is upset. Your ex got a new car. You didn’t tell him right away. He might be upset because what if ex had shown up to his work in new car & he didn’t know ex was there. Right? I know I get antsy when I see ANY car that looks like my ex’s and it has been almost 7 years. However, I don’t think this is something to get THIS upset about. A simple conversation of “I appreciate you trying not to upset me at work, but I think anything to do with your ex is significant enough to concern me about at work. In the future, please let me know” would have worked. Your current man’s behavior is 🚩. I also understand not wanting to do a big shopping by yourself. Could a family member go with you? We have grocery pick up in my area, maybe you could put an order in for that and just pick it up later? When I HAVE to go in the store, I try to go right after opening or just before close as there are less people there. Best of luck!

@Justice agree. I don’t it’s the car. He’s probably more upset. He wasn’t informed immediately that she saw her ex.. when she’s already dealing with police over him.. and ex mom was suppose to do pickup. He probably felt out of the loop, concerned, and overthinking why he wasn’t told until way later. Like it was a secret or something.

I just think he’s acting a very silly way for someone that was concerned adding more anxiety to the situation.

It’s just seems like to me y’all’s communication is off. Cause I doubt he’s upset about the car and the no communication about the encounter until hours later. When it seems to be something pretty serious if you and your ex is involved with the police and an order not transferring your kids on y’all’s own. Guys have feelings too. I would talk to your man and open up the line of communication. Because asking a public platform and putting very little info out there and not telling the full story is going to make people assume their own assumptions.. you’re going to get more accurate answers from him than anyone else on here. 😁

It depends what it is you told him, if it's something upsetting I can understand him acting that way. Just give him some time, I would go do the shopping alone. Make a list and make sure you have everything covered

That doesn’t mean ignore the fact about what has happened if you do go shopping but this is something you can think about instead of all the people around you and just stay focused on your task at hand and move around as if the people are just things in the way that aren’t paying any attention to you because they’re also thinking of other things too

He sounds like a red flag to me...

Wait; he's mad over a car? Your partner needs to go. What adult locks themselves in their room and has a tantrum 🤣 you can do better. It's almost the start of controlling behaviour, then you go and apologise to him, for doing nothing wrong. This is how it starts

Go shopping, and remember you have no ties to him yet so if he carries on, leave