What is this called?
My husband does this thing when we talk and I don’t know if it has a name. Here is an example that happened tonight:
My husband was talking expressively with his hands, but one of his hands had a knife in it. I said ‘please put the knife down’ as it scares me because we have a toddler running around. He said, “Fine I just won’t talk then.”
He does this all the time. I didn’t want him to stop talking, I just wanted the knife to not be flying around. Is this called something psychologically? The saying, I just won’t talk, when I correct him.
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Gurl be careful, last time I had a similar situation with an ex, the knife was because he felt emotional n wanted to self harm then he switched got angry n it was pointed at me…. I dont know Yur man but try speak to him in a safer environment
I am sorry that happened to you! Sounds awful. The knife is just an example, he was cutting up an apple. I am not fearful that he will use it in a purposefully harmful way. I just am wondering if stopping a conversation when he is corrected is called something.
I would call it throwing a tantrum 🤷🏻♀️
He just doesn’t like to be corrected. Mine does the same thing he shuts down and I’m like wow okay but if he corrects me I continue the conversation. I don’t know what it is called but it’s ridiculous
stonewalling is more like avoiding important conversations or topics because you can’t handle it emotionally. i think in this case he just got offended by the correction. or maybe he just doesn’t like being interrupted?
Mine does this sometimes, usually if my son is shouting/being generally loud when we're trying to have a conversation. I think for him it stems from feelings (unfounded but his feelings nonetheless) that he's sort of at the bottom of the food chain in our house, so to speak. I know he feels this way because it's a side-symptom of a mental illness and his experiences as a child where he was unfortunately neglected, never put first and never felt valued. It doesn't happen all the time, usually when he's in low mood generally.
Yeah it's called extremism. It's a type of being hyper sensitive to criticism. You criticise AT ALL (or even that they perceive that you criticised them) and it's "then I'll never do x again"
"thanks for the sandwich, it was delicious. Do you think next time you could use a little less pepper though?"
"Omg, fine, I will never cook for you again"
I'd say it's pretty petulant
Definitely just a defense mechanism. Instead I would try saying “please be careful with that, I don’t want *insert kids name* to get hurt”
You have to trust him, & trust he will be cautious enough to not hit your baby with it, drop it on them, etc.
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