He said it’s a weird question??🥴

I wouldnt say that's weird. Uncommon and potentially really personal or triggering maybe?

@Stephanie That’s what I was thinking. Maybe intrusive or he didn’t have a really good childhood.

Those two questions let's me know if I need to abort mission or proceed... Unfortunately learned this the hard way but know better moving forward.

He was triggered. I feel that’s something to ask during a face to face date and not online. But for sure he was triggered poor guy. Must have had a bad childhood

Did you ask him over text/message? It might be a better question to ask in person so you can diffuse any discomfort that might come up. It might be interpreted as "So, did anything terrible happen to you growing up?" Which is sort of an odd question, even if the answer is no.

I think it's the format that sounds weird. Asking questions this way would make me feel like I'm applying for a job and less like I'm getting to know someone.

To ask someone what their childhood looked like is very personal. It's also difficult to answer even if it was fine. Because what do you say? I'd probably answer that it was okay to someone I didn't know too!! Especially over text. Perhaps asking if they have much family around nearby might give you more of a sense of what you're trying to find out. And if their childhood was not a happy one, that question is deeply personal and not easy to answer at all. It might just end up shutting the conversation down entirely. I do think it's a weird question to ask straight away and over messaging. I know why you asked it, but I don't think it was the right time or place.

@Bonny From the looks of it we won’t make it to a face to face date lol and I’m ok with that. It’s just God saying nope, that’s not the one for you.

@Dominique Right! When I ask about childhood they usually tell me about their household (grew up with both parents or not), family dynamic like if the family is close or not, big or small family, something. This was first time hearing the question is weird.

Online dating is tough, you are constantly judged based on your looks and the most basic bits of informational. In my opinion it’s important to meet the person you speak to and once you have a few dates and decide you like that person you can then move onto getting to know them better stage which would include childhood history

@Laura This perspective also makes sense. Thank you.

I would be very weirded out by that question! I had a great childhood and would find it so hard to answer, like are you asking about my parents or my house or school…it’s so broad I’d just say yeah it was good and change the subject. Seems like more of a face to face chat that you get to naturally not the 2nd question you ask someone you’ve never met via text

Here’s the answer, ok? There is zero negative connotation to your question whatsoever. The person you were talking to was obviously made uncomfortable by the question itself. THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. If you personally are looking for somebody who is easily able to answer that question, (because that’s also your communication style perhaps, “Open book” type of personality), I would just tag his response as a sign of incompatibility and move on. Because he also could have said for himself that question is too personal, or something he would rather discuss in person. But he would rather put it on you and call it “weird”. Swipe left, babe.

@Tiffany I definitely unmatched this morning because he responded to my explanation of why I asked him the question initially with, “Yeah that was strange and I’m not used to getting questions like that”. He acted like I was asking personal info to do a background check 😂😂😂 …and once again discernment wins!!

@April If it was great, it should be easy to express that. where’s the hardship in it? If you’re not clear on what the question is asking and you’re more of a specifics kind of person then ask clarifying questions. 🤷🏽‍♀️

But he did express it, he said it was ok…you’re the one that seems to want it clarified further