Postpartum relationship advice please?????

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Having a baby is tough on a relationship! Have you had a conversation to set up expectations? My wife & I talked a lot about what we wanted our relationship to look like after we had kids. It’s different for everyone, but we’re in agreement that our relationship isn’t the main focus right now. We don’t do date nights or surprise gifts or anything. Instead we focus on having an hour or two of connection after our toddler goes to bed. We usually watch TV, eat a snack together, share things about our day, etc. We also make it a point to go out as a family at least every other week to do something fun. Park, outdoor restaurant, nature walk. That helps us stay connected 💗 Learning how to argue was also really important for us. We talked about what we need during an argument to feel safe & heard & what we don’t appreciate. We also try to remember that we’re on the same team & it’s us vs. the problem, never me vs. her!

Shoot I’m so sorry you’re going through this Cierra! It sounds like you guys need a reset, rekindle date. The only place you can’t bring a baby is a bar 😉 Just take him and go somewhere together to change the scene! Get dolled up, and be very kind. When we’re tired, we lose focus on what matters… Your relationship is actually one of the most important things in your child’s life. Let that motivate you. This is easier said than done, especially if you’re tired 🙈 but a little selflessness can go a long way!! The more determined you are to love your bf, the more opportunity for him to step up. (Selfless doesn’t equal doormat. Just give in to the little things. You don’t always have to be right, you can do that extra diaper without asking him to take it…etc) Also men don’t have the sane hormones allowing them to survive on no sleep 🫠 Maybe give him a few nights without waking! Bonus points if you don’t tell him about it, just let him sleep. And DON’T act jealous when he’s not tired lol

I'm on my 3rd baby with my husband and I remember when life changed with my first born. Then second born and 3rd born now. Every baby has seemed to change our relationship. Then as the baby got older we tend to find each other and settle down back into spending time together etc. but it's definitely hard to find the grove again and spend time with each other after a baby. Most of the time I'm tapped out from making decisions and being mom all day that I don't want to be wife at night and just want my alone time.