Mil wants us to return lo's gifts to her house once he's opened them....
Show your support
@Kimberley no she does this every birthday/ Xmas... tells us what is to stay at her house while he opens them. She has 5 siblings so don't know whether her own childhood factors into this behaviour. She is also a member of the church and I suspect she gets a lot of back pats for donating such good quality children's stuff. When she asks for "gift" ideas now I struggle to muster any enthusiasm for the topic because they're not really for my son. My partner sometimes agrees with me and other times is defensive.
Yeah this isn’t right. If she wants things for her house then she should just buy them but not as gifts.
My mum has my children 2 days a week. She gets them presents for Christmas and birthday and she's never once said what they should do with them even if they open them at hers. All she asked me was to make sure there was a box of toys for them to play with and we let them choose what goes to nanny's and what stays at our house x
@Kirsty exactly ... we swop and switch toys all the time with my parents. Lo will take stuff, sometimes leave it and sometimes bring other stuff home. That's how I think it should be.
I read something like this a few weeks ago. They’re gifts you don’t ask for gifts back for your house imagine someone buying you a dress but then saying well you can only wear that when you’re here it will be in my wardrobe… you want stuff for your house keep stuff back but don’t wrap it and pretend it’s a gift when clearly it’s not 😑
My mums done this before with a firestation. Luckily he wasn’t too bothered and thankfully it wasn’t an ongoing theme. Now she’s desperate to get rid of it as he’s well past that stage now. They did however have some of my old toys plus charity shop stuff so it’s not like he didn’t have stuff to play with there.
Maybe suggest he brings them with him when he goes there
If she wants them at her house I'd get her to do a separate gift opening session AT her house. Because i think its unfair to essentially take them away from him after opening.
@Isla we have bowed out of Xmas day at theirs as we are also expected to attend from lunch time boxing day (but she's too busy/ theres too many ppl there when she hosts for boxing day re his presents) and to be honest both days have just been too much with a cranky, overstimulated baby/toddler/preschooler. The other option was he opens them al gifts from theml today
My mum has her set of everything for mine and my sister’s kids in her house and she still buys for our houses too.
My BIL bought my little boy a 3 in 1 football goal toy. It is quite big, and my in laws decided it was to be kept in their house. My son has played with it only twice and it has been over a year. I find it so strange, my in laws are just like yours! They always want to keep their gifts at their house
@Sophie it's so strange isn't it? Like wouldn't they rather him get use out of it? We have an outdoor toy/gift there and due to the British weather he's sat on it twice whereas if it was at home he'd have been on it everyday... probably rain or shine.
It makes no sense to me whatsoever, I wonder what goes through their heads 🥱 id rather they didn’t get my kids anything. They’ve kept the ‘football’ goal toy in a bedroom and it is quite bulky 🤣🤣
@Sophie what do they do when lo outgrows stuff?
to connect with women at a similar stage in life.
Trusted by 5M+ women
to connect with women at a similar stage in life.
Trusted by 5M+ women
Why doesn’t she just keep the toys there and let him open them there ? I understand they need things to keep them entertained whilst there but the fetching them to bring them back makes 0 sense
Girl just don’t take the gift if it’s gunna be a headache like that .. just let ‘em keep it and when he reaches he can open it there and leave it there don’t even stress yourself or find reasons why she may be like that just let her hold it
They give the toys away to their relatives kids (without asking me) 😶🌫️
If she wants them to stay at her house that’s where they should be opened. Once they enter your house in my opinion they’re fair game!
My mom buys toys specifically to keep at her house, she doesn't gift them to him. If she gives him a gift, he gets to take it where he wants.
My mom had toys at her house and she sees them even less frequently. She doesn’t gift them those toys though. She just buys them for her house. The toys she gifts come home.
If they are his gifts he gets to decide where to keep them. If she has her own toy chest for the kids to play with then those toys stay there, but no the gifts are his. Did she give a reason to why?