Cord prolapse

Anyone else experienced a cord prolapse? So I was induced at 39 weeks everything was going smoothly until my midwife broke my waters. Suddenly my baby’s heart rate started dropping and they tried to fit a monitor onto her head. This is when my midwife then realised I had a cord prolapse. They rushed me down to theatre and put me to sleep. My baby was born and 2 hours later I met her. Fast forward to now and she has just turned 1 year old🥹💖 Whenever I have spoke about it to people I get comments like “be grateful she is here” or “at least she is healthy”! Obviously I’m more than grateful she is here and healthy. But it was such a traumatic experience and I feel robbed of a birthing experience, I feel robbed of having my baby put straight on my chest. I wasn’t even the first to hold her. I think about it so often and feel like I’ve had no support with this. What’s everyone else’s experience with cord prolapse? P.S my midwife was amazing and I can not thank all the doctors, midwives and anyone else that helped during that moment and after. This was also my midwives first cord prolapse and she did so amazing.

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Not a cord prolapse, but a haemorrhage during a premature labour, a very unhappy baby, which meant a rush down to theatre and a birth I didn’t want or was not prepared for. I got to look at my baby but not hold him, I also wasn’t the first to hold him. He was taken to NICU and I didn’t meet him for several hours. I remember that feeling so well of being wheeled into NICU and having no idea which baby was even mine. I only realised with time quite how traumatic that entire experience was, and like you, how dismissive people are because we both made it out alive, regardless of the complex feelings surrounding that time, that I should just be grateful- but like me, you’ll understand there’s more to it than just that.

‘A healthy baby is not all that matters!’ People don’t realise when they make this comment how that can hit. Your feelings are valid ♥️ of course you are grateful baby is here healthy, but it is really understandable to feel the way you do! ✨🤍 have you ever looked/heard about 3 step rewind? It’s a three step therapy programme that you can do for birth. It could really help you settle & process your experience, it can’t change it but it can help you when you reflect. 🤍✨ You only get that story once, it’s worth it in my option to feel better about it! Sending a lot of love! ♥️ Xxxx

I would definitely recommend going for a birth debrief if you haven’t already. Email the maternity ward at your hospital to arrange one. I had a traumatic birth and the debrief helped me feel so much more positive about it and I understood why things happened and if they are likely to happen next time round.

@Chloe I’m so sorry this happened to you! I suppose people who have never been through something so traumatic would never come close to understanding how it feels. The mother seems to just get forgotten about after the birth and people only care about the newborn baby

@Alishya Thank you so much!! I’ve never heard of that but will definitely look into it. I thought I had come to terms with it a long time ago but the reality is I was just pushing it to the back of my mind and just trying to get on with it. Again thank you so much❤️xxx

@Harriet Rose I have asked them for one and they said I would be put on a waiting list, never heard anything since🤷🏼‍♀️ That was about 11 months ago. Will definitely try some form of therapy/counselling though x

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