Overreacting

You are not overreacting you are struggling with hormones and he is not being mindful of your feelings. Unfortuantly most of us go through the same struggle with partners. Men struggle to bond with a new born because they cannot play with them like a 3 year old. Try and have a conversation with him telling him how you feel calmly without having a go at him x

@Chloe that'll be hard because i'm so upset and angry😅

I’ve always said men are from a different planet they generally don’t think how we think he may be thinking you need a break from the toddler he will take them out you also have to remember men can do absolutely nothing for a baby and sometimes they do end up feeling like a spare part the mother provides everything for the baby up until a year old all he can do is support you so maybe that’s what he thought he was doing so your partner maybe feeling useless in that department but your toddler obviously has a good relationship with him as all toddlers love their dads it may be making your partner feel wanted at this time this doesn’t mean your feelings are invalid I would have a good cry and a nap and then address my feelings to my partner because he probably hasn’t even thought about it x

You’re not overreacting at all. I find my partner doesn’t give equal amounts of attention to my newborn compared to my toddler. I’m wondering if it’s because he still has yet to establish a bond whereas with my toddler that bond is already there. Not really helping himself as he needs to put time in to do so. You need to have a serious conversation and talk about how both you and baby need time with him (and a break). A bit of fresh air can really do good for you.

Same happening in my house, although I try to take it as my husband giving me a 'break' whilst he ensures our toddler has lots of fun. Although it's not a break as such, it is quiet time with the baby to feed, shower etc. My toddler is way more into my husband at the moment anyway, so it's all good. We do try and do at least one family thing together each day of the weekend to balance it out, or husband has baby for an hour or two whilst I take toddler out. X

Had a conversation with him how I feel very left out in the "fun" stuff I'm basically left at home with the baby constantly (I don't drive) and we don't live near any parks for me to walk too and how only last week i'd mentioned about going to a xmas market with our boys and its never happened. He just said I was being irrational and said I was feeding the baby at the time (true but he had finished his bottle just needed to burp him etc)

You are not overreacting at all, he is being insensitive and inconsiderate!

No I don't think you are overreacting. My husband and I plan what we are doing at the weekend together, maybe next week try talking to him before the weekend and decide together. I echo other comments in saying he finds it easier to spend time with our 3 year old atm too. He's just taken her out now to a Christmas party but that was my idea. I bf though so he does the 1 bottle a day with our baby. I think there is less excuse if you are feeding bottles more, he's equally capable of doing that.