Hitting
So I’ll start by saying I am VERY frustrated and dare I say angry. We had a Christmas party with our friends last night. We all have kids and we all see each other very often. A friend of the group and one of my closest friends has 4 children. I have 1. But one of her boys is the same age as my daughter (2). They get along fine but also fight like siblings sometimes. So last night her son kept putting his hands on my daughter, wouldn’t leave her alone (was annoying her), pushing her, hitting her with his hands and toys. Controversial topic but we’ve taught my daughter if someone hits you, hit them back but never hit first. Which is what was happening last night and my friend (mother of child) agrees with the way I approach hitting and does the same. But then my daughter was hitting him because he wouldn’t leave her alone. Kept grabbing her, touching her, pushing her so she’d hit him bc she didn’t wanna be touched. But then the kid would cry so I’d put her in timeout. Or she’d hit him in the head with a toy so I’d put her in timeout. Not ONCE did this child get put in time out or disciplined for putting his hands on my daughter. I’m so angry bc if she was 15 and a boy kept putting her hands on her and SHE got in trouble for hitting him but he had no punishment I would be absolutely livid!! Am I right to be mad? What would you guys do? Bc I’m SO mad. This happens allll the time. Her children have no discipline.
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@Melanie that was my thinking by doing the timeouts trying to remove her from the situation just trying to diffuse. But there would be no civil conversation about it because she gets mad at her husband for disciplining their children 🙄
I’d be worried that punishing my child instead of the one who was in the wrong would be sending the wrong message. She might get confused as to what the boundaries are. I never condone hitting period. So I’d either have to remove her by keeping her in another room with me or leave the persons house. (If you can’t talk to the other kid who is instigating). Maybe be nice to him and say “if you hit her again, we will have to stop playing”. And remove your daughter every time he does it
That’s hard because you can’t really manage how other people parent their children. But if that person is a close friend as you say, can you have a civil conversation about how the situation is making you feel? That you would like him to stop hitting your daughter? The only other option in my mind is to remove yourself and your child from the situation.