Am I in the wrong

Drama My 4 month old suffers with pretty bad silent reflux and colic we have some very good days and some very difficult days I stay at home with her 90% of the time esp now that it’s cold we tend not to go out much other walks and shopping (she starts baby classes in Jan) so far I have found going for visits to families quite challenging I find myself stressed and overwhelmed esp when she has an episode and everyone panics why she’s crying so much The current situation is that family was meant to be spending Christmas at mine but recent issue has arisen with my husband (cheating) so we started slow separation process it’s already ruined the Christmas spirit for us as is 💔and I’m so depressed from it all… Now my family refuses to spend Christmas at mine and demand I spend it at theirs. And his family demands I come there too. Husband has arranged to work on the day which is fine by me. I don’t want to leave the house I want to spend my time with my baby at home in comfort and peace but I’d love my family here. And his to visit also. They said I’m causing the anxiety by not allowing my little one out of the house 🙄for longer than 2h. I’ll take any opinion I won’t get offended thanks for reading x

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Ah so sorry you are going through this 😢 it's hard as it is without the added complications you are having. I wish your family was more supportive 😪 and NO, you are not in the wrong. Just listen to your heart and do what is best for you and your baby. If staying at home makes you feel better then communicate this to your closest people and make them realise you need their support and care right now. It's okay to ask and expect them to go out of their way given your circumstances. Best of luck and hope you have a peaceful Christmas 🎄 x

We were in a similar position last year (minus the cheating) we’d actually spent the week before Christmas in hospital and had no longer than 2 hours of sleep a day since she arrived. She was better out of the house as she had new distractions so it eased her crying a bit. It also meant there was lots of people to have her and to help, I even managed some sleep on Christmas Day! However that being said. I would never go anywhere with her at the time if I wasn’t up to it! You have to look after yourself first to be able to look after her. If you are struggling generally (not just with Christmas) going out then it may be worth giving your health visiting team for a bit of support but with Christmas do whatever feels right to you. I started going out to coffee shops and baby groups and would slowly start to extend the time each time probably around 4/5 months x