Let’s not normalise this.

I think its completely acceptable. I wear them from time to time. My baby hates getting her outfit changed or her diaper changed, So i wear them in order to make it easier for me to be less stressed while i do it. Theres nothing wrong with wearing headphones if it's going to make you a calmer parent and be able to care for you child better. Babies can sense when ur stressed out. Headphones can help take the edge off.

I’m just going to assume you mean don’t do this so you can stay asleep while your baby is crying. If not you’re kinda dumb. These are totally valid tools for parents to use while handling their child. Calm parent >> overstimulated mess

Are you talking about people who are sleep training and using them to completely ignore a baby? That’s completely different than using them to help you stay regulated and calm so you can support your baby more easily while they’re upset. The latter is actually suggested a lot as a helpful tool.

It looks like she is referring to sleeping hrs as she mentioned 'at night'. It would be negligent to wear them through the night whilst you sleep imo, unless the other parent or a caregiver is on duty.

During sleep. It is neglect.

Weird thing to come on here to judge moms about but ok

Some babies are very noisy sleepers, I wear a loop ear bud in one ear or I wouldn't get any sleep 😅

Im looking into getting some but for daytime only. I kinda agree with you about the nighttime/baby part. It’s not safe to not be able to be aware of baby during nighttime

@Jord in one ear is a good idea. Those are the ones I wanna get too

I haven't personally used them but I think during day time is fine. Just not at night

Poor babies. Actions have consequences. This will have a detrimental effect on them, it is neglect. Those of you that condone this or do it yourself, you will be the same mums who post on here worrying why you don’t have a strong relationship with your child or they have behavioural problems. You have wired their brain that they will be ignored if they cry, struggle etcetera and they have created a negative connection. You are also putting their health at risk and increasing the risk of SIDS.

And yes I 100% judge those of you that do that, you should be judged and you should feel ashamed. Judgement is good because hopefully you will change and become a better person. I hope those of you that have done it or are considering stop and start making positive connections with your babies where they feel safe, cared for and loved. They can’t regulate their emotions and they can’t protect themselves.

I'm just gonna address the "neglect" you refer to for letting a baby cry.... sometimes it can't be helped. I have a 3yr old who also needs Me to make him food, comfort him if hurt, take him to toilet or shower him etc and if my partner is at work then unfortunately baby is gonna have to go in her crib and cry... if I know she's fed, changed and warm then I know she's OK.

If you firmly believe this then why are you incognito then?

I personally agree do this post, because not being able to fully hear your baby while crying/ distressed it’s a risk I’m not willing to take. I think when you are a sole carer of your children you need to be supervising them the whole time using your all senses. Maybe use a background music to help you and the kids feel calm.

Jog on - you aren’t perfect and don’t judge.

Everyone in the comments literally said they wouldn’t wear them at night to ignore baby cries 😅 you are just trying to cause arguments and I am judging you for that

Yeah no one has said they would ignore their crying baby 🫣 pretty sure people do it to dull out the active sleep and general sleep noises that keep us awake when we're sleep deprived and on high alert. You can still hear your baby and obviously hear if they do a little cry, just dulls out other noise so you can get some sleep and be a better (slightly less sleep deprived) parent. Don't shame parents who are already tired and stressed. Everyone is doing there best

I mean if you can’t use your common sense to see how this is wrong, you just need to look at literature or real life case studies to see the effects. Neglect - depriving babies of physical comfort they need, letting them go into primary survival mode. It has a long term effect on children’s stress levels, mental health and behaviour. It’s very different if you need to put your baby down for a few minutes so you can have a breather as you’re feeling overwhelmed - that’s to reduce likelihood of shaken baby. I am talking about actively choosing to fail to meet your child’s needs and neglect them by not listening out and being able to be there. I am glad those of you who do are commenting, at least SS can be aware and there’s evidence in case anything was ever to come from it.

Being drunk around a sleeping baby isn’t okay as it reduces your responsiveness and capability, same with noise cancelling headphones.

Wanna judge people off incognito?

Weird how you’re more concerned about me posting in incognito then a baby’s welfare. So what I reveal my profile and you stalk me then message and threaten me because I pointed out how it is neglectful and instead of you, any of you admitting it is to yourselves and trying to change you’ve got huge cognitive dissonance, will defend yourself and change the subject by attacking the person who posted.

My partner does, it bugs me but I’m the one that gets up anyways. It also makes me feel like he’s ignoring me, makes me feel isolated

I keep an AirPod in 1 ear during the day to listen to podcasts and stuff because it helps so much, especially having the noise of 2 under 2 all day every day. I would never at night though, mine sleep through at the moment but I still wouldn’t just incase.

Where are people even saying they do this at night to ignore their babies’ cries? You’re ranting against something that no one here has said they do… Also not sure why you think shame and judgment is what makes people change their behavior. If you honestly wanted to educate people on why they shouldn’t do this, you’d have gone about it in a completely different way.

Some are defending it but the education part @GMF you are right! just gets me thinking about those poor babies

Whos drunk around their baby? Girl what are you talking about

@Diana she has no idea. Just pulling random crap out of thin air 🤦🏼‍♀️