Breast feeding

Any tips on everything Breast feeding from staying hydrated , to making enough milk and just everything I’m trying not to feel like I’m a failure as a mom but I do …

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You are not a failure. The most important thing is asking youself....Is baby having regular wet nappies at least 6 a day?

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Power pumping - high nutrient foods - water - vitamins - reducing stress - correct latching - wearing a good supportive bra - comfortable feeding pillow - finding a feeding position that works for you

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Milk production often ramps up based on demand... Unless you're unlucky to have low milk production, no matter what. I've heard the lactation cookies really work. There's also different supplements that I've heard can be useful, but I don't remember them off hand.

If you have, or can get a breast pump, I would encourage that. You can pump after you feed baby, to really make sure that you're getting a lot of the hind milk out. The emptier you can get them, the more your supply *should* ramp up.
I'm not sure how old baby is, but near the beginning they only drink 2-4 oz per feed... And newborns, even less.
I would also point you to la leche League https://llli.org/
There is SO much info, from food and water intake, to how to get a great latch. I found it really useful.

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And please don't say you're a failure as a mom because of breastfeeding. EBF is HARD. It doesn't come naturally like you expect. It hurts. It's time consuming. There is so much weight on your shoulders already.
They used to say "breast is best". Now it's "fed is best"... Because if you're struggling mentally and physically to give everything to breastfeeding, it isn't what's best for bubs. They need their mom to be present and focused on figuring out this mom stuff.
Be kind to yourself. You can only do your best! 💜

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I need tips on how to proper latch my little baby has a broken arm due to him being bitty first during a. Planned c section 🥹 so feeding with my right boob is difficult

He keeps shallow latching and I have few bites on each

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Try cupping your breast so it’s the shape of a burger so when it’s going into babies mouth it’s like biting into a burger. Xx

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Try the football hold on the right side if you can't lay baby on his left side.
I used cross cradle predominantly so i could hold my breast as mentioned.

Here's a link that may help. https://llli.org/breastfeeding-info/positioning/

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What do I do if he keeps shallow latching
He’s having good diapers and he is combination feeding but everyone keeps saying dr wise I have so much supply we won’t eventually need it however .. I suck at getting that supply as he’s not latching or I’m not pumping enough etc

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My baby had a shallow latch as well, and I could ONLY feed her football hold and side lying, took about 2-3 weeks for pain to minimize. I had bleeding, cracked, chapped nipples, reopening after every feed- it was BAD. I used nipple crack for a while and ibuprofen 800mg (life saver!) until I had a mostly pain free latch. I’m almost 7wks EBF and now I can lay back and latch her cradle / cross cradle and there’s really no pain at all, sometimes the initial latch but not all the time. You got this!!!

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Thank you so much everyone so far ! Very glad I have this app to lean on and have the support. One boobie tmi is finally healed but working on the other has been a struggle but I’ve been applying cream and getting better hour by hour with not being hard on myself

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