Feeling rejected

Hi everyone I know this is probably so silly but I have a nearly 22 month old. He has been mostly a mummy’s boy up until til a few weeks ago. When he goes to his grandparents or other family members he forgets I exist he even tells me to go away. They end up doing all the mummy things with him that I feel is my job. I feel so rejected by him it really hurts I know this is probably so silly but it’s also coz my in-laws have hurt me in the past and I do feel quite uncomfortable when he is around them but I have no choice. I feel like I’m losing my child. I’m am literally crying all the time

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I completely understand this :( I'm sorry you feel this way hun. It's horrible x 💔

It's completely normal for kids this age. "Not you" is the most common phase that's how they establish independence it's a sign he's developing well. Good job mamma! It stings but that great news 😊

@Klaudia thanks made me feel a bit better I’m reading about this stage now. It’s just heartbreaking 💔

I'm sorry but if your child under the age of 15 is telling you to go away I feel that has been learnt behaviour. My son now 6 has never told me to go away or said anything along those lines. It's sad that when children insult or are rude or dismissive of their own parents, parents try to make excuses for their behaviour. I have a colleague who does that, plus I work in education and see it all the time. I'm sorry but it's unacceptable. If you don't speak to your child like that why then is it ok for them to speak to you like that? If your child does or says something that is unacceptable you have that conversation and nip it in the bud, if it persist you continue to have that conversation or there will be consequences for their behaviour. I understand everyone parents differently and children are all different but that has worked for us in our family, if something isn't right you address it and talk about it. Communication is key, alongside consequences lol.

@Melissa I have never spoken to my child like that. And it’s difficult to get a one year old to understand how hurtful go away is, do you have any suggestions? I speak to him all the time he is actually quite advanced for his age in speech people have commented a lot how intelligent and friendly he is too, I think it’s just quite exciting when he’s around new people and he doesn’t want me to disturb his fun. It is hurtful though

Unfortunately he has herd that sentence from someone and is now using it on you which is sad. The fact that your LO is intelligent is wonderful and by even make a sad face and acting sad may then help him realise that he has made you sad by saying what he said, then follow it up with letting him know how sad it makes you feel. This also transfers for how he will carry himself at nursery or playgroups.

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