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Is there such thing as being too nice in a relationship?

I think so.. being too nice can create an unhealthy imbalance. I feel in any type of relationship you should have healthy boundaries to where no one should feel they are consistently prioritising the other persons needs more than their own which later on can cause potential resentment and not just that, but but who doesn’t wanna be kept on their toes in a long term relationship? Maybe it’s okay if both are equally too nice idk but sometimes you need to set those healthy boundaries, have someone you say “no” to and they tell you “no” as well when it’s needed. What are your thoughts and opinions on being too nice in a relationship?

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I believe so. I don’t remember exactly how it went down.. My husband as always put me first and did everything I wanted. Then one day, he told me otherwise. I did get upset but our relationship actually got better after having that discussion/conversation.

Mmmm I think very much depends on the relationship and communication. In my marriage to my husband clear boundaries were very much needed and respected but with my wife it's not needed as we know one another dislikes and triggers so 'no' is very rarely used normally in jest than anything else . X

For me being too nice has previously lead to being taken advantage of, walked all over and then abused - mentally/emotionally/financially & then physically. In the relationship there was no saying no because he was the priority- not our babies, not keeping a roof over our head or holding a job. And when I did try to establish healthy boundaries (even early on)I was the problem, I needed to change, or whatever was going on was my own fault/doing. So yes I know there is such thing as being too nice.

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