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@Reena sorry I should've been more specific, I mean what does it take to have a strong marriage, I feel unhappy and exhausted and wondering if we have what it takes to make our marriage work
What it takes for any relationship to work; mutual respect, love, understanding, supporting one another through the tough things and the day to day things.
I think also open and honest communication if your feeling frustrated having the safe space to say how your feeling but also listen to how he is feeling. Humour/trust - a partnership - he supports you, you support him etc
Communication - if something is bothering you then you should feel comfortable and confident expressing it and your partner should receive it well and be open and not defensive. They should be keen to talk through issues, apologies for misunderstandings and work together to help resolve things Trust - you should have total faith in each other Teamwork - you should both know it’s a true partnership and approach challenge in life as a team, as well as split any chores and such as a team Laughter - your partner should make you laugh and smile each day Relaxation - your partner should make you feel comfortable and settled and at ease
For us, we're both very religious and we know that we don't have a way out unless one of us cheats or becomes abusive, and we both are not those type of people, but of course never know. What works for us is constant open communication, even if it's something we don't want to hear. There will be stages throughout your relationship when it won't work but open communication for us is key
I’ve been married for nearly 3 years. I’ve learned to see marriage the same way as a child. It grows and develops and I know it will become easier. The 2 year mark was definitely terrible twos for us, but we stuck it out. By the 5th year, the 10th year, the 15th year you’ll look back and be laughing but your marriage would’ve gone through the toddler years, preteen years, teen years, young adult etc there’s difficulties at each stage. And EVERYONES marriage is DIFFERENT. Never compare yours to another. Because there is no one else like you and there’s no other couple like you. Even if you’re not happy, you can grow to be happy. How you feel now doesn’t have to be forever, but it will take some work. It’s back it how bad you want the marriage to work and how much you love the person. If you’re not in any danger, or being abused, don’t quit
My partner and I have been together for 10 years. We aren’t married as he doesn’t believe in marriage. I would like to get married but more to have the same surname as him and my daughter. We went through a difficult time a couple of years ago and decided to get couples counselling. It has made our relationship so much stronger. I know I haven’t answered your question, but I am definitely of a mindset that if you want the relationship to work, you have to work on the relationship.
We have been together for 12 years, married for 10, and as silly and simple as it sounds, we just really like each other! We do what we can to make one another's lives easier and better, and we enjoy spending time together. We've definitely had fights and such, I don't mean to suggest it's all sunshine all the time, but I've never doubted that my life is better with him in it.
I'm not sure what you mean by the question. In essence getting married was a legalisation of our relationship. Nothing much changed for us other than we had children and bought a home together.