What would you do

So I am not with the baby's father anymore and you know how you have the talks of what the baby's name is going to be like the first name. But since him and I are not together, I didn't think you would ask about the last name. He says he wants the baby to have his last name but as far as I know how it goes. If the mother and father are not married, the children get the mother's last name with my first. That's how it was too. I told my first child's dad that if him and I weren't married before the baby was born that the baby would have my last name. Him and I got married and the baby had his last name. This time is different because me and my baby father are not together and we are not married so the baby will have my last name. He keeps asking me and begging me for the baby to have his last name. But I stay strong with what I believe and I believe that if a mommy and a daddy aren't married, the last name goes to the mother. I know some people will be saying that it's the least I could do and other stuff or saying that I'm just trying to be mean but it's something that I was raised to believe and continue to believe

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You can always use both and put a - between them. I would if I knew my kids father was going to be persistent in their life . But it’s your call

@Brandy I did not know you could do that ... I'll look into it

I’d say if you will have primary custody or if you are going to be the ‘responsible’ parent in terms of paperwork, use your surname. Me and my partner aren’t married but live together and we chose his last name. I don’t know how it works in the US but I feel I’ve made a mistake because I’m primary carer and deal with all the life admin stuff (bank accounts, registrations, doctors etc) and don’t share my baby’s surname so it’s been a pain. Not difficult just annoying. I’ve also heard if you intend to travel abroad without the father and a different surname you will need proof you are the mother and/or written consent from the father.

Have you asked him why he wants the baby to have his last name. Has he been helpful and showing a lot of interest in being a father… I think in the end it’s up to you. But if he’s not being helpful I would really not give the last name like that you have all the rights as the parent and don’t need his permission to travel and do other things

Well my man and I live together so I gave my first son his dad's last name and I will be doing the same thing for baby boy number 2 once he arrives in March. No we aren't married either. My mom gave me my dad's last name and they weren't married either so I guess it depends on the dynamics of the family. Yes we all live in the US.

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