This is not right, right? Re family dysfunction
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@Makayla yes that was the point is to reschedule after the holidays
Agree with Makayla, he can request to come and you can definitely deny the visit and reiterate that it's best to wait until you are all well and do a proper exchange. You are not crazy to feel badly.
I actively avoid people who I know are sick. Juggling 2 poorly toddlers alone isn’t fun. He prob thought best to get the presents to you as not fair for the kids to have to wait. U could suggest rescheduling family time when everyone is well again. I don’t actually think he’s done anything wrong. I understand him wanting to stay away while ur family are sick and I think nice that he wanted to still get gifts to you over the Christmas period. Family time is nice over Christmas but it can be done at other times if for any reason it doesn’t happen at Xmas. 2y ago my mum was poorly on Christmas Day. She stayed away (on her own which was really sad) but we then celebrated at a later date.
@Helen yea being sick and not celebrating is totally ok. It's the fact that he said we can reschedule but then today say he wanted to fit us in and exchange gifts but can't hang out and I'm like.. um okay I thit we were all going to hang out as a family
@RoRo yes that was the exact plan but today he said to fit it in and not hang out and that's when I was like um I thought the whole point was to exchange gifts and let the kids open them together
Maybe he was thinking we’ll hang out when everyone is well? I’d say yes to a gift exchange but pop a date in the diary for family time
I would ask if you can just wait until maybe after the holidays so you guys can do it together! You’re not crazy at all, it’s okay to want to do things together for the kids to have fun too