Am I wrong to be fuming?
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@Hannah yeah! And it’s like if you don’t agree with them you looked at as problem being the “wife/gf” like Just because you did it a certain way with your kids and your daughters learnt from you don’t mean way ill raise my kids will be same
I hope you said something there and then, because for me that’s a no no, because this individual could introduce allergen trigger food before your ready. I would also not trust that person to babysit as they won’t adhere to boundaries
Yeah even though they raised their son 35 years ago... like we've learned some things since the lol
I also am making my own purée as well as trying some of the Ella’s kitchen. My mum is very understanding and has also bought Ella’s kitchen stuff for her house.
@Rashelle I in a light tone said “okay let’s not he’s had enough things to try last few days he only JUST started eating” and took the baby off them, but whole room went silent, it’s my MiL 🤦🏻♀️ and my husband don’t see an issue with any of it, it’s like I’m slagging her off if I tell him I’m not a fan of the behaviour
I would be angry too. A family member shoved watermelon in our baby's mouth behind our back at six months and I am still angry about it three months later.
Is it ok to ask if it was MIL? I think it may also depend on if it was done to upset you or not. I wouldn’t want someone feeding my child without asking, don’t get me wrong, but your child your choice. You grew and birthed it you need to be informed and give permission.
@Heather it was MIL, she bought us food for him a month ago as if to kinda push it on but she will claim it’s “only trying to help”
It’s not that big of a deal that he tried some orange and only has just had foods introduced- however the issue I would have is not respecting your way of parenting and the fact that food need to be controlled at first for allergens. Just politely say we keep a food diary and would like to stick to our food lists if you wouldn’t mind
Might be time for some serious boundary setting.
This means in your absence your husband will let things your not comfortable with slide. I think you need to speak to him also maybe find out something about your LO that he feels strongly about and ask how he would feel if you allowed others to go against it, if his reaction is negative then use that as a way to say, that he should now understand your views on this topic.
Id be mad too! My son is 4 months old and starting to roll to his sides and my MIL is constantly cheering him on and trying to push him to roll onto his tummy... like let him go at his own pace.. I even told her I asked his PED and he said to just let him have back and tummy time and he will roll when he is ready!!