Christmas Day

Not sure if I should let this get to me or not, this Christmas we had his 2 children. I sort all presents/wrapping etc and my family also contributes to presents so they don’t feel left out since we have a 2 month old together..his family don’t do the same. I hate Christmas as it is but I was a little excited it’d be my babies first Christmas! She got absolutely spoiled and whilst putting presents out all he was bothered about was how the baby had ‘more’ then his 2 kids but I explained his 2 will be getting presents for the next 2/3 days from different family members, our child only stays in ‘one place’..Christmas morning came and he put the baby in the crib and watched as his 2 opened presents then left the room and started sorting the kitchen leaving our babies stuff unopened, this literally broke my heart and I don’t know if I’m just being silly? I understand she has 0 idea what’s going on but I thought it would be nice to get her to feel wrapping paper and experience it together, also to show his children that just because she’s a baby it isn’t any different for her too, she has a right to have just as much involvement as them. Safe to say her first Christmas wasn’t a memorable one! Advice please?

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I think he was a little thoughtless - have you spoken to him about how you feel? Set the expectation now - on future Christmases both when they’re with you and not and how you want Christmas to be! He probably thought well baby doesn’t know it’s fine - probably wasn’t as ‘important’ to him

I'd be heartbroken if my partner did this! I think you should speak to him and explain how this has made you feel, as Amy said above you need to set the expectations now! Hopefully this wasn't done maliciously and wa just carless thinking on his behalf xxx

What’s frustrating is he already knows I feel as tho me and our baby are just ‘outcasts’, we’ve had numerous conversations as he doesn’t help much with her either. When we have a chat he steps up for a couple of days but this was the icing on the cake for me! It’s as if his 2 kids are his family and me and the baby are just ‘there’ literally heartbreaking and doesn’t set a great example infront of her siblings, I’d never exclude them no matter there age! 😞 xx

If you need to talk/vent please feel free to message me privately! I have felt how you are feeling many times before xx

I remember feeling this way on so many different occasions when it came to our son, probably for the first six months, mostly because I think hormones are all over the place but also you are protective of your baby and trying to navigate a new family set up. Just keep communicating and as long as he listens and supports how you feel, things will get better and improve as you all settle into new family dynamics xxx

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