Toddler behaviour

I’m just looking for some guidance, FTM, 20 month old, they don’t have many tantrums however they absolutely run the show, now I don’t know if we should allow this or if it will cause problems down the line. My partner thinks they’re too young for discipline and probably is happy for an easier life but they won’t eat unless we eat some of their food and sit exactly where they want us, partner thinks they dont know how demanding that is and is desperate for them to actually eat something. Won’t be in the pram long for us will for my mother partner gets them out whenever they want. They tell us to have a drink etc but is that just copying us? If they won’t eat in high chair partner lets them eat wherever and I just can’t work out if we should be a bit stricter Tia

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Following this as I have the same question. Can't take mine to the supermarket anymore as he will have a meltdown if I don't give him exactly what he wants as we are going around

I think you've got to find the right mix, which is still something I'm working on as it is easy to let them 'get their way' for a quiet day. I think boundaries are important though and at the end of the day, you're the boss. I used to hate my son kicking off in the pushchair but if we're out and about it's the safest option so they just have to get on with it. But I also believe in pick your battles x

I don’t have the answer to this per se but I would say it’s a happy medium. Don’t let them rule the roost but also appreciate they are 20 months old and like to be involved. While playing our little girl is very demanding and specific about where we sit and we just do it. But when it comes to her wanting something we don’t want her to have, she gets told no and if she has a tantrum about it then so be it. We have the same issue with eating aswell, she hardly eats anything, but found she eats better when we’re not in sight as she sees it as a game if we are there. A lot of their behaviours are copied or playing I feel. So when they want us to have a bite, it’s them involving us and interacting with us / playing. So it’s not a negative thing xx

Thank you ladies! @Charlie its good to know your little girl also tells you guys where to sit 🤣 my lo has told me where to sit this morning and the dogs haha but then changes her mind and wants the poor dogs moved yep we have found the same if I potter around in the kitchen while lo is eating seems to be better

Yes the demanding to sit is strong with this one 😂 and it has to be very specific and placing her toys and dolls in the exact spot she demands 😂 we also get told where to go when we are carrying her or when she’s in the pushchair and if it doesn’t effect what we are doing then she gets what she wants but if we need to go somewhere else she gets told no 🤷🏼‍♀️ swings and roundabouts I guess. Xx

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