I just want to vent a little

My baby is 11 days old and everything has been great for the most part but I’ve already been kind of struggling emotionally with adjusting to being a mom of 2 and just feeling lonely. My partner has been doing a great job at checking on me and supporting me but his mom is calling multiple times a day and is pushy asking about my baby. It’s her first grandbaby so I know she is excited but she never asks if I’m okay or I feel like takes into consideration the fact that she has a mom who just went through childbirth to bring her here. She acts like she is entitled to my baby constantly asking for pictures so she can post them to her facebook. I told my boyfriend how that bothers me because we don’t want her posted to social media a lot and he told her that she can’t post any more pictures to facebook except for on occasion which I am fine with but she is still always calling asking to see her and calling her “my baby” and it just really bothers me because she is not anyone’s baby but mine and they don’t even care to check on me but want to act entitled to my baby.

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Sorry you’re going through this struggle. I think straight up communication needs to happen. Whether it’s just you, your partner or both of you. It needs to be out in the open so boundaries can be established. The my baby comment it’s not an excuse but it seems to come from people who are a bit older in my experience anyway. I’ve not had anyone my age say anything like that. My own mum says it but I don’t let it bother me because I know she’s my baby and I also know my mums joking. I have read some stories though about other people’s mums and that not doing it jokingly so I understand. I just laugh about it and then make my own jokes and say “noooo she’s myyyy babyyyyy”. Then my partner will say the same as me and my little sister will just say she’s no one’s baby 🤣🤷‍♀️ if she’s doing it seriously then yes that needs to stop. But if it’s not clear if she’s making a joke, let her explain her actions first. I also hated when people used to acknowledge my daughter or come to visit just to

See her. Yeah those people aren’t even bothered about her anymore anyway now she’s not a newborn 🙄 I hate people like that. There for the baby but not there for them when they start growing and that’s why they aren’t in my life anymore and I’m much happier for it

I feel you. It's like your life isn't your own anymore when you have a baby. Everyone wants to come around on their own terms and they have no compassion for you, regardless of whether you're healing, bleeding, tired, feeding. Be selfish and protect your peace where you can. Your partner will hopefully support you because it's important for your wellbeing x

I hope it gets a bit easier for you soon and your wishes are heard. On a lighter note if your MIL asks to see a picture of 'her baby' send her a picture of your boyfriend and I'm sure it will shut her up 🤣

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