in December 2021 Babies 🇬🇧

Potty training/toileting at nursery - help/advice needed.

So I've just sent a complaint to nursery following a phone call at 9.40am saying that my son isn't potty trained, isn't ready to use the potty & can they put a pull up on because he's not ready to use the potty/toilet at nursery. For context we have had problems with poos. We've been on movicol 2 months. We are giving 1 sachet each night and I've had him with me since Weds last week - Christmas day. Most days we've had 1 emoji style (or 2) perfect poos in the potty. On boxing day we were at a large family gathering - he had a pull up on and there were a couple of poo accidents other than that zero accidents. No wee accidents for ages even when we go to a play centre or outdoor events and he has a pull up on each time we take him to the toilet and his pull up is dry. The other day (about 2 weeks ago he had 4 wee accidents at nursery in 1 day). He also goes to a childminder 2 days a week who has been fantastic & helped promote us to go nappy free and actively encouraged it - he rarely has an accident with her and we get reports he asks for the toilet & goes nicely. With Grandma he tells her he needs to stay on the potty to poo and poos on the potty. With us he does a funny running on the spot when he needs to wee or poo - we remove his pants n he goes n then we put them back on. I'm trying to encourage him to ask to go to the toilet and to pull his pants up and down himself. I feel like nursery feel like I'm lying n just sending in a child in pants that isn't potty trained. I don't feel any support from them other than go to your GP but all the advice online seems to be keep going with the movicol until you get 1 perfect consistency poo per day. Which I feel like most days we are getting now. Can anyone help? Anyone have any advice? What do I do next. I don't want to just put in back in nappies/pull ups as I don't see how that's going to help us move forward. Potty training is the hardest thing I've ever had to achieve it makes me feel like a rubbish mum on the daily as does talking to nursery. All I see is magical potty training in 5 days done - please don't comment that on here or that u trained your child at 1 - it's not helpful when I really need some help to support my child because I'm struggling and trying to get poo in the pot is killing me off bit by bit mentally.

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We’ve been potty training since June/July time. My we girl turns 3 now on New Year’s Day. I wfh 2 days and MIL keeps her 2days so no nursery experience but potty training is an on going learning exercise. We have padded pants that can hold some pee from shein and also normal pants pull ups still at night. She knows everything needs to go in the toilet but poos are still a WIP and she still has accidents

Just wanted to say that my daughter has been potty trained since September however she will not poo in a potty only in her knickers tried everything she just will not poo in the potty or toilet The nursery should be helping him and keep him in pants even if he has an accident Sorry can’t offer advice really

Don't put him back in nappies it will set him back. Nursery should be supporting and regularly reminding your little one to go potty, and should be offering you ways to help if they see a problem. There are a lot of distractions at nursery so regular reminders is important.

@Saff I've put in a complaint. After collecting him today I'm 1000% sure that was the right move. He should be getting a permanent room and a new key worker on Monday. That was probably due to happen anyway but I believe this has cemented them actually agreeing. The phone call this morning said he'd had 3 accidents and could they put a pull up on. On return home I got his washing out of his bag expecting 3 bags of dirty clothes minimum. There was a single pair of trousers in a bag completely clean - I photo graphed them and a pair of pants that contained what can only be described as a skid mark. I don't think I would have changed him for that. I'd have probably checked and either waited for him to do a bigger poo in his pants or taken him to the toilet. If he didn't poo in the toilet I'd have left him longer n seen what he did next before changing him. They must have put him in the pull up straight away because there was zero evidence of the other 2 accidents that happened before they rang me.

They said he did 10 poos today in my opinion that would warrant being sent home with a stomach bug but they said he was fine & well. He did zero poos on returning home aside from another slight mark in his pull up. They have suggested taking his own potty in tomorrow we will see how that goes. The lady I can't stand simply said did u have a nice Christmas n then passed us off to her colleagues and she's meant to be his key worker 🙃🫠

Sounds like he needs a new nursery x

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