Period - SD

She’s 12 she got her first period a couple months ago at her moms. Prior to that her mom gave me a heads up that she might get it on a visit on our time and that she “kinda” knew what a pad was. SD asked me for help so I made her a period care package and explained basic things (with permission from bm and her dad). She gets her period at school and she was prepared. 6-7 months pass by and yesterday she got her period for the first time here with us. She is lost doesn’t really know about the diff types of pads . I asked so I know what I can get her to make sure she’s comfortable etc. she said her mom doesn’t buy her Midol and only used the ones I’ve provided .. along with the pads I sent over . I’m not dissing her mom at all but I would’ve assumed after her first period that maybe they would’ve talked about it ? I don’t mind doing it but I tread lightly and would never over step . I thought I already laid out the stepping stones for the convo in the beginning because maybe her mom was just busy at the moment etc. Now I’m thinking of having some individual time with her to see if she has any questions and to help her through this. She grabbed me and started crying in my arms last night saying “ thank you for helping and being here”. I somewhat feel like I’m over stepping but if she is coming to me for help then that’s what I’m gonna do …

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If she’s coming for help then help mama! Both of my sd had no period knowledge. Despite my first already having her period when I met her. Maybe awkward for mom to share all the options and details? Don’t feel like your overstepping especially since her period is already here. May be overstepping if you were dramatically prepping for something that hasn’t happened, but it’s happened! Help her out ❤️

@Priscilla thank you . I always try to be respectful . I certainly don’t mind stepping up I don’t want sd to be lost through this process I know this is a weird time in her life and I want to be able to support her in any way I can

Omg !! That makes me want to cry ! That’s so sad! I’m so happy she has you to help her and support her and she will always remember that! Who cares if you step on mom’s feet at this point her daughter needed her and she wasn’t there. Good for you for stepping up! 👏🏼 your a good step mama!

Sounds like her mom wants you to deal with it. I’m sorry you’re amazing! She’s lucky to have you.

It sounds like you are just the right amount of stepping. You've cleared everything with mom and dad, and your sd is appreciative. Gold star for you! ⭐️

Update - bm is currently having a field day because I gave SD Midol .

Don’t feed into it. That’s ridiculous sounds like she’s just on a power trip.

@Amanda Brown now I’m completely second guessing myself feeling like maybe I should’ve asked first before giving her anything .

I'm proud you took the initiative and helped her. She is reaching out to you. You are not overstepping. You go girl!!

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