Someone talk me out of it

For some reason I really really really want baby number 2 but it is such a bad idea. Financially we can't, the space is not enough, I want to spend time with my now 1 year old before we have to share her time and attention with another. Plus I don't fully see myself as a mum of 2, I feel like it'll be too much for me. But I do want my baby to have a sibling because it's the best thing in the world, but it could also go wrong and they could hate each other. I just know that right now is not the right time, but I can't shake this feeling. I need someone to talk me out of it 😭

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Well I’m due January 15th with my second and it’s a boy… and girl this pregnancy was not planned at all and let me tell you, being pregnant with a toddler has not been easy 😩

The most obvious thing I can see that might help is that it sounds like the only reason you want another is as a sibling for baby one, but more important than a sibling is parents that are present, calm, not stressing about finances and arguing all the time due to all the commitments. We always said one and done for this reason, although now I do want another 🫣

Maybe come up with a plan for when youre in a better position for baby 2 so you can look forward to that time without making your life hard by starting now?

What Lucy said. I am also 5 years older than my sister and she's my best friend. You don't need to have them super close together for them to be close. Give yourself time to prepare and make sure you're emotionally physically and financially as ready as you can be. It's only fair to your current child and yourself to do so.

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