Potty training

I need advice. I started potty training my 2 year 3 month old around 18 months old very casually. She showed all signs of readiness. I started putting her in underwear about a month or so ago at home and she was always doing amazingly and was excited.... until she spends the day/one night at her dad's. Then everything goes to shit. She refuses to pee on the toilet. She either holds it in until she can't anymore, waits until nap, or asks for a diaper. When I said if she's a baby or big girl in big girl pants she says baby. I really don't know how to overcome this as she knows how to do it and knows when she has to but she could care less when coming back from dad's.

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Have you been able to have a conversation with her dad? What, if anything, are they doing over there? Are they just putting her in a diaper?

@Jenny I've brought her in underwear there and she's come back in a diaper. Her dad never really tells me the truth so I've had many conversations with him about putting her on the toilet but I don't think he really listens and if I ask how anything is going there he just says great

Unfortunately all you can do is continue to uphold the training on your end. It doesn't sound like he's willing to collaborate on this.

@Jenny how do I get her to understand though? That's my biggest issue is here she has to pee on the toilet

It's just something that's going to come with age. She's too little to grasp that things are different at your house vs dads so the transition back is difficult.

@Jenny I'm starting to think she'll never be "fully" potty trained because of this transition. She only goes there 1-2 times a week but it's enough to screw her up

She will get there. A lot of people don't even start potty training until after 2, she's on the earlier side than expected anyway.

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