How much should I wait to have my second ?
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Our kids are June 2021, April 2023 and March 2025. So Still 3 when the youngest is born. Yes they need lots of help but now that the kids are 1.5 and 3.5 they play together really well and the bond close in age affords is great. I think the every age gap comes with it own challenges. I have a freind who's kids are 3.5 years apart and while the oldest was better able to help herself there was certainly a lot harder adjustment to not being mom and dad's sole focus
I’m ready but not ready lol my baby girl was born 4/28/2023 but I would love for her to have a sibling
ours is 4/26/2023 and we are working on sibling
I think it depends on your toddler! Our 2023 babe was really interested in babies, loved rocking and dressing her baby dolls and took to her sibling (19 months apart) so so quick which made it 100 times easier on us. One of my friends had a similar age gap but her son wanted nothing to do with his brother and it's made it hard in them to keep him entertained away from baby and from hitting/hurting the baby
@Brianna yea mine was born 3 days before yours and I’m still thinking if now is the best time or not haha
It definitely depends on the older child’s personality, temperament, and needs. I waited and was trying right around my first son’s second birthday. Personally it would have been easier to have them closer in age or wait a bit longer BUT 2.5-4 was incredibly hard with my older son ( we were having behavioral issues and a speech delay). It was really rough during the pregnancy and postpartum. So I guess I’d think about this: Your child is young so it’s a bit hard to know but… 1. How does your child handle disappointment? Correction? 2. Transitions and changes? 3. Does your child sleep well? 4. Does your child communicate with you and seem to understand you?
From the research I’ve done it says at lease 3 years apart is ideal. I like the idea of giving my first born as much attention as possible for a solid foundation before I am not able to attend to her every need
We got very lucky with my delivery & our son’s temperament & routine so we knew we wanted them close in age. Our second will be born a few weeks after our son turns two. I think if we had a harder time adjusting we may have been a bit more hesitant about trying for another so soon.