Feeling ashamed of my child
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I also wanted to add that I stopped reacting so much to my son’s reactive behavior. I did some research and something that really stuck out to me was that kids don’t want to have a tantrum any more than you want them to. Think about yourself - how do you feel when you overreact in your own life? Probably bad (i know I do). No one “wants” to lose it and melt down and our kids don’t either. They just don’t have the tools yet to properly deal with their emotions. In my case, I leaned into it. When he would fall apart, I would take a breath and put myself in his shoes, and suddenly I felt a lot more empathy for him. I started reacting more with hugs and saying things like “I’m sorry, this must be really hard for you” and “sometimes when I’m mad I yell / cry too” and then I started to teach him better ways of dealing with his emotions with intention, like breathing or counting. Daniel Tiger is also a great show that supports this and the kids really listen. Hope this helps. 🩷
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All kids are different. I’ve heard before that kids raised in a bilingual household are more likely to have a “speech delay” but it’s not because they’re not learning - they’re just learning 2 languages at once instead of just 1 so it takes longer and they often understand but just can’t speak at the expected rate. Idk if this is the case for you, but it’s something to consider maybe. I can tell you that I was worried my son (same age) was on the spectrum because he was having behavioral issues like tantrums, screaming uncontrollably….a lot of times I would start crying out of pure frustration. In my case, my son had A LOT of change in his life - losing his dad, moving to 2 different states in just under 2 years, and I was struggling emotionally too….so a lot of factors had to be considered. I realized that my son did much better when there was more routine, so I put him in a school with more structure and he’s been much better.