The struggle is real

What does that mean

I’m in the same boat

But why are you guilty? Do you feel like a person outside of motherhood?

We were us before we became mums, and it’s healthy to get a part of “us” back, to maintain a lil of our identity. “Mum” is one of the hats I wear. Same as wife, sister, friend, daughter in law. It’s not my whole personality- I still have goals for myself outside of motherhood and friends and hobbies to see as outlets. I don’t think it’s selfish at all, I think it’s healthy. The most happiest mums I see out there are the ones that also play Mum when needed, and a great one at it, but they are also themselves, they have goals and friends and hobbies..I feel guilt in other aspects but I guess this has never been one of them…I guess because I hang around the same crowd, the same mums that have slowly gotten their pink back and when we meet we have other things to talk about instead of our kids ALL the time. Life, work, fashion, hobbies, friends etc.

@Kellie I’ve always wondered if you have an Australian accent and I read all your comments in one 😂😂

@Monét yes I do haha I have no Asian accent either it’s fully Aussie living my whole life in Australia 🤪 I can walk into a nail salon full of Viets and they’re talking about me behind my back in Viet not knowing I can understand them 😂🤣

@Michaela I’m wondering the same

@Kellie I think that’s what makes it even more interesting too! I was wondering if you had another accent with Aussie but it makes sense that you don’t lol. I’m fluent in Spanish and it’s my superpower because no one ever assumes 😂

@Monét I’m learning Spanish! I started with the app Duolingo but it teaches me like a kid and SO slow I didn’t like it now I’m watching Spanish shows LOL. I immersed myself into the Spanish community by learning salsa/bachata and met many new Spanish people there which promoted me to start learning spanish also (and kind of relevant to the post ironically since it’s a new hobby of mine I took up 😂) how did you learn are one of your parents Spanish speaking?