Anyone else struggling to find joy at this stage of their lives?
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I feel you...it is hard to enjoy, when we don't have a good rest..as a mum, job is never finishes for us...
@Someone’s Mom it's hard, isn't it? I hope it gets easier for you too.
For me my biggest problem is I don't have a village , I am constantly thinking about something...what to buy, what to cook, clean here and there...I feel like a machine, and now I started to break down...I cry often , I just feel so drained physicaly and mentaly
I feel exactly the same , I was fine until recently , started to feel nothing gives me joy , if I ever get to have a bit of fun I always feel there is a pay back. I was feeling great as a mum so far but now I don’t even know who I am and I am tired of looking after everybody ( husband , step kids and my baby ) except myself . I need a social life ( I have no friends because I moved in the uk 4 years ago and I am a stay at home mum ) but at the same time I am dreading going back to work and I can’t see what the future has to offer . I am also wondering if I am depressed … you are not alone !
@Nastia exactly the same... especially if you run on 5 non consecutive hours of sleep, it's just draining.
@Emilie thanks Emilie, I guess we just have to keep going through this phase and wait for better days.
I do feel this. It’s really challenging and monotonous. I do things to make my life easier like online shopping to save me going into the shops, batch cooking meals and freezing them so that I don’t have to constantly think about food. I will never get on top of laundry or the house and I kinda have accepted that.
@Chelsea in regards to the batch cooking I always tell myself to do it and never find the time or energy.
It’s really hard. I usually do like a veggie sauce and cook it with my boy with me but then that sauce will last 2-3 weeks for his pasta or a huge batch of salmon fish cakes and again they’ll last us 2-3 weeks alongside other meals I cook on the day. It is hard but saves me effort in the long run x
Hey lovely. Sorry you are feeling like this 😢 I get it. It’s exhausting! 50 hours is a lot. Is it possible to get any help like a cleaner? Or cut down hours? Food wise I also froze some pasta sauce the basic tomato one from bbc food and use that a lot! I I did also freeze some meals and use them my toddler doesn’t mind x
@Selina hey, thank you for your words. I am planning on getting a cleaner but can't afford it just yet. I hope I'll be able to soon.
I just started to learn how to ignore this mess, is hard because I feel better mebtaly when is clean and tidy, but it is just not possible to clean and cook every day...I cook almost every day and for me it seems like too much already :)
@Nastia I know, right? I'm lucky that my partner cooks 2 or 3 times during the week, but still.. I need to deal with the laundry while he cooks so it's not like I'm resting 😀
I don’t think it sounds like depression. If you read back what you’ve said it sounds completely understandable that you feel the way you do. I feel similarly, so I don’t have any advice, but I just wanted to say I hope things get easier for you and you get some time to find yourself again.