Marriage/relationship fading away

Probably going to be a long post, but I feel like I need advice and support right now. Even from strangers as I don’t have anyone really to talk to. My husband hates anyone knowing about the down parts of our relationship. I know I’m not a saint, but I honestly thought it would be better after having our first child. I’ve been with my husband for over 10 years, married for over 2 years now. I thought he would grow up more since having a baby. (A baby that has been so wanted after fertility issues) but at times I feel like a single mum doing everything alone. He works late, coming home mostly at 11pm at night. He doesn’t come to bed till past 2.30/3am cause he needs to “wind down” playing on ps5 on gta with his mates. Wakes me up every night! Sometimes Baby too. I’m sleep deprived as it is. I’m always first up to go make the bottle. I’m fed up of shouting him to bring baby down half an hour later. He then moans about the house being upside down. I do everything I can with a 8 month old. I feel like a mum to both of them and I shouldn’t be bloody mothering him! He doesn’t cook and hardly does washing of clothes. I do all of that. Doesn’t want to learn to cook either. Even for our baby when he needs to look after her when I go back to work. If I ask for help during the night he’s says “I’M AT Work”. I’m no doormat and I tell him to do one. He moans the house is too small, but doesn’t want to do better. I’ve asked him if he would consider changing jobs because of the hours and he’s like no because he’s getting the hours. Even though he complains about the late shifts all the time. Yes, I know he’s working but I’m working too. I’m looking after a little human being. I feel like we don’t have much in common anymore. I always do everything in the relationship from arranging days/nights out. I don’t get much in return. I’m always have been a giver and I’ve love that. But I won’t get trod on. I’m really close to his family. I only have two be significant parent in my life but he can have a quick negative opinion very easily. My MIL is very close to me, but her son will obviously come first. Our friend circle are mainly his friends first as I’m not originally from the place we live. Fed up putting on a brave face. I’ve told him I want a break. All he’s said to me is no. No on taking a break. I want wants best for my baby and for me. He can be kind, he loves the baby so much. I knew the change would be hard, but so many people telling me you’ll love your husband more when you’ve had a baby and the good change it will bring… I feel guilty just writing this post.