I don’t know how much I can take
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I’m looking into that actually but I’m scared of the crying that might happen. Apparently there are softer approaches that can be used. Need more information really.
All sleep training involves some crying even the gentlest approaches but it needs to be weighed up with your mental health which is so important for you and your babies happiness as well! We are sleep training at the moment using a very gentle method where we basically can comfort baby as much as we want and then gradually withdraw over a number of weeks as he settles a bit more easily but it’s still involving some tears/is hard but sounds like it may be worth looking into for you if it’s impacting you this much? We reached a breaking point with the sleep deprivation too.
I’m so sorry that this is how you’re feeling! It’s hard and you should never feel judged for opening up and asking for help ❤️ Have you tried the pick up put down method at all? It can be time consuming but it does cut out the ‘crying it out’. We started it with our little one and we can now (not all the time) put him down awake in his crib and he will settle. Essentially it’s goes in the basis that you put them down drowsy but awake and if they cry you pick them up and as soon as they are settled you put them back down again. It can take some time out of the day but we have found it works. Does baby enjoy listening to a story or lullaby? Maybe set that going on a phone when you pop them down or a sound machine if that’s accessible to you! Feel free to reach out privately sweetie. As a mum having PPD, we got to keep each other going ❤️
@Kat actually it sounds pretty much what I’ve been doing. We play soothing music each time she goes to sleep apart from at night and I think it does help. She will eventually go to sleep after I’ve picked her up a hand full of times. I always put her down again because she too heavy to rock to sleep now. When she’s finally asleep she sleeps for 30 mins. Shorter than the amount of time it took her to get to sleep in the first place. Night time I feel is the worse. She use to be so good. 6/7 hours most nights now it is only 2/3 and this is where i find it the most difficult. The lack of sleep is too much. I need to try something to try extend her sleep but I just don’t know what x
Ahhhh so it’s not just the getting to sleep it’s staying asleep too!! I personally don’t do it but I know plenty of mums that do, have you considered safely co-sleeping? I know the lullaby trust explain the safe 7, but if it means you get some sleep it may be an option?? I personally don’t do it, but I know a lot of mums, especially breastfeeding mums do and find it the best way that them and baby can get sleep https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/
I am really sorry you are feeling this way. Would you consider doing some sleep training? X