Feeling like a single mon

I have been with the father of my son for about 4 years. In the beginning he said he didn't want kids but came around to the idea and when I was pregnant seemed really excited. But now that our son is here I feel like its just me taking care of him. He's a breastfeed baby so I know that he depends on me a lot but I find that I'm have to ask for help instead of his father volunteering. I ask for him to watch the baby so I can go to the bathroom or take a shower. I had to go back to work sooner then I wanted and our son goes to a babysitter during the day and when I get him home and hand him to dad for a little reprieve to cook or anything he screams his head off. And I'm the only one who seems to be able to soothe him. I tried giving pointers but it seems to frustrate his dad and cause the baby to be handed back to me. Either that or he is crying for too long that I come and take him away from him. Does anyone have any advice?

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You have to let them figure it out alone. Leave for a walk or send them for a walk everyday. I am also EBF but my husband does more around our son than me.

Definitely let them work it out. If the baby gets handed back to you every time, that will just become the expectation when baby gets upset. Can you pump milk for dad to give a bottle? We do that so my husband can help with feedings. Tell him what you want and need from him so it doesn’t seem like you are doing everything. Maybe talk to dad and explain you are just trying to give ideas that work for you when calming baby down. He probably gets frustrated because it can come across as you just telling him what to do and thinking he doesn’t know how to care for the baby. I had to have that convo with my husband too with our first and even this one since all babies are different.

Have sad give him paci, hold him close, swaddle him, pat him on back and make shushing sounds to soothe him. He needs to start doing these things so he can bond with his baby.

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