Autism concern?

My son is 2 years and 1 month and I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant with my second. I feel so anxious all the time - and with all the autism talk I feel like I’m searching for things wrong my son. Can someone please let me know if I’m crazy (and normal) or I should keep a continued eye on him? 1. When he gets excited he shakes his head (side to side) really fast. You can call his name and say stop and he will but he does this when excited. 2. He lines up his cars (he plays with them racing them around and says “vroom” but he will also line up a bunch of them). This one bothers me because my husband taught him this. Since he started playing with cars he’s like “line up your cars” I’m like don’t teach him that let’s see if he does it naturally” you can move the cars around and he doesn’t care and he will clean them up. 2. He randomly toe walks. Like he will walk flat footed all day and then toe walk to his toes and then back to normal (I would randomly toe walk when I was a kid but my mom said one day just stopped but I was like 10 lol). 3. He talks like crazy and started 3 word sentences but refuses to acknowledge or even wave to strangers/ new kids (I’m a SAHM). If we go to a child center and a kid is playing with something he wants he will play near them and only occasionally will directly interact. 4. He’s at a stage he wants me near by but not to play with his toys. 5. He will tell me something like “all done snack” and then I’ll say “ok hun” and he will repeat it until I say “all done snack great job!” 6. He responds to calling his name and will look you in the eye but it’s for like 3 seconds then he’s looking off again. Sometimes we can get a really long eye contact but mostly it’s quick.

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All sounds pretty normal. Kids at this age usually only parallel play not actually play with other kids. Sounds like he’s just excited when he’s excited. When I drop my son off at daycare he doesn’t say a work ppl ask him questions or I will and he won’t answer even at family functions u too he’s very comfortable being around those ppl. But the teacher says he absolutely talks at daycare. My child walks on his toes sometimes but mostly flat footed. Not too sure about the eye contact thing though. I always say go to your health care provider and voice your concerns nothing wrong with asking and then asking again and again if you need to. You’re the advocate for your child.

He sounds normal to me ! However you are his mother and know him best so I would ask your doctor if you were that worried.

@Michelle I agree talking to healthcare provider- the reason I ask is everyone thinks I’m crazy because he’s either been ahead or on time for milestones and never shown any concern. I’ve been told I could just be super anxious but he’s only displaying normal behaviour. Yes I know my child best BUT there’s also a reason why doctors aren’t allowed to treat family because sometimes through fear or anxiety can cause us to search out issues when nothing is truly wrong. If these were signs I’d bring it up to my pediatrician/ but he currently doesn’t see anything wrong. I feel like social media does a lot of fear mongling with parents !

@Storm thank you! I think it’s me- pregnancy has caused a lot of anxiety this time around and I feel like I’m more emotional too. There’s no specific concern but I’ve been on Instagram to much lately and I swear people put normal behaviour and advertise it as the biggest sign of their child’s autism disorder. Now I look at my child and go “these seem normal is he okay?!”

Trust me mom I UNDERSTAND!!!!!!! We all just want to make sure that are babies are healthy and fine. What I’ve learned being a mom is that all are babies are different or “quirky” in their own way. lol at a point I was on instagram all the time and all these videos would have me saying “well my baby does that” until his doctor had to tell me. “Storm put your phone down.” I found I was over analyzing my child instead of enjoying him at a time. So I def understand. Enjoy your baby. He’s fine ! He healthy & your a great mom. If you’re worried call his doctor and they will be able to address those concerns you have.

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