Let’s talk sharing jobs

We both work 45+ hours a week and we share the load. Might be different if I was staying at home, but I’m not sure. Hard to say!

7-7 he vacuums, washes dishes, car maintenance, puts our son to bed. Looks after him on weekends while I'm at work We take turns walking the dog

I work from home , he’s a contractor so his own business. He picks up school takes her to job sites if needed. But bc it’s his own it’s pretty flexible . He helps a lot w out daughter . he usually will wash dishes and fold clothing those are his main chores. I usually do the rest and we have cleaning person 1x a month to do deep cleaning.

We both work full time so our daughter is in childcare/with family for the day each day. However once home, he’s fully hands on with our daughter and always does bathtime, and we share bedtimes (but she’s enjoying Daddy bedtime at the minute). At the weekend, we share child responsibilities 50/50. Housework - I tend to carry the load more, that’s always been the case. He always does the bins, anything car related for us both, feeds the cats and does the cat litter, and always mucks in with cooking tea/cleaning up of an evening though so I can’t complain. I just do the lions share of the cleaning in terms of bathrooms/general tidying etc but I know that’s because I’m not willing to wait for it to be done at a weekend so do it on my WFH days! If he knows that something needs doing, he’ll do it but I do need to remind/ask sometimes (this doesn’t bother me, as a lot of it links to my standards compared to his and I’ve learnt a lot of my need to be as clean/tidy as I like is my issue🤣).

Thanks guys. Good to know I wasn’t out of my league asking for more help. I do all housework & cleaning, all breakfasts, pack ups and dinners, all drop offs and pick ups. And all feeds and night wakes with both children. Lol 😂

I didn’t even ask for much, I asked for him to put our eldest to bed every night as my 2 month old cluster feeds from 4pm - midnight, and for him to help me out easily by putting a dish in the sink (not next to it) and rubbish in the bin (not next to it) 😂 and wash a few pots whilst he waits for the kettle to boil for his coffee 🤔

@Naomi what were his circumstances growing up? Only boy? Youngest? I’m Australian but my husband is English and he was the youngest and only boy and his mother babied him like nothing I’ve ever seen. I moulded him in to the man he is now. But sometimes it’s hard to get them out of it!

@Joanne hes the youngest and was sort of left in the dark growing up. His sister was an alcoholic so a lot of the parents attention was on his sister. Both parents worked and his dad did and still does a lot of housework and all cooking (his mum can’t even do beans on toast 😂). Very odd if you’ve grown up in a household with two working parents that both contribute to housework and children! I think a lot of boys get smothered by their mums, glad you took the initiative and sorted yours out 🤣

He could at least do wakeups of older child.

@Naomi oh gosh this sounds horrible for him. Hmm a hard one isn’t it. Can’t even do beans on toast 😆😆