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We tried to potty train my daughter when she was 2.5y. We went cold turkey and she was doing fantastic for like 4 days. Poops, pees, we weren’t even staying home she did well even at a church bathroom! Then she fell into our friends’ toilet 😅 the next day she tilted her pelvis to look at her pee and accidentally shot it out. I involuntarily shrieked bc it narrowly missed my face and she started crying. Ever since, she refused to go to the toilet, but also didn’t want to wet herself, so she’d just cry and stand there and I’d have to clean up many many accidents a day bc she wasn’t even relieving herself completely 😞 I actually did a good job of keeping my cool with all the mess (a shock to myself). Like I was always just like, “Oh don’t worry! It was just an accident, but next time you’ll put it in the toilet!” Finally through tears and gripping onto me so hard one day she asked, “Mama, can I please wear a diaper?” I couldn’t say no, the poor girl. It felt traumatic for both of us. I gave up and now she’s almost 3 still in diapers. I’m worried to try again to soon! Help!

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I have a friend who told me her first went until like 3.5 or almost 4 before completely potty training, but then her other children were super fast and young bc they watched and learned from the oldest. I’m trying to let that soothe me, but I’m worried what other parents will think 😞 I’m worried they’ll think I didn’t even try when we really really did

It might be worth getting a toilet seat and taking that with you until she gets her confidence back to perch comfortably. Or a potty.

Could you get her a special toilet seat? One that's portable so you can take it with you. You can get some with nice padded seats so maybe something comfortable to make her feel secure sitting on it and like she won't fall in? Practice sitting on it without it being on the toilet first, then move on to the toilet

My 2 kids started after being 3 and now my girl will be 3 this week and went handful of times only 🤷‍♀️ give her some time to forget and maybe read some books. Bing also has cartoon about potty on YouTube 🥰

Maybe try a plastic potty till she grows confident again, or try the little steps and children’s toilet seat so she feels more secure. Good luck :)

@Karen Thank you! We have a potty. We’ve always used a potty

@Laura Thank you! We have a portable seat and a potty that are super similar that worked great the first time

Please don’t let her keep shitting herself for the sake of “trauma” shitting yourself is traumatic 😂

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