Struggling already 😔

Hey, I’m in a similar position - I was reaaaaally scared at first. Then I thought about our Christmas’ and birthdays and the fact I’ll have a baby who has a sibling close in age. One day they’ll be 5 & 6 and 12 & 13, 20 & 21 etc and I know they’ll thank me one day. I put the tv on and change baby on the sofa whilst giving him something to hold. I usually put on ms Rachel and that’ll stop his attempt to wrestle me! Teething at this age is RIFE. It’s made my baby SO CLINGY! I can’t shower, can’t clean, eat, cook, nothing! Again a couple things I found that helped is rotating toys so every day or every other day it’s a ‘new’ set of toys so he can keep himself occupied between me playing with him, reading keeps him calm and going for a nice walk even in this weather. It’s a good break for mum and baby. It WILL get better. In a few years the babies will play together, you’ll be sleeping through whilst people are starting all over again with a newborn and bigger age gap. We got this!

@Parris I don’t even know what ms Racheal is. He doesn’t have any focus so the tv doesn’t really interest him. He loves his toys that play music but if i put him in the high chair he launches them across the room and they’re gonna break. I’ve given him stuff to hold and it worked for a short while but it no longer works anymore. He’s more interested in grabbing the wipes but then he knows how to open them so empties the packet if he’s got them too long. Honestly the kids nuts. He will bang his head against the wall or door or even the floor. I direct him else where and he will crawl back. If I have to pee I can’t unless it’s in my bedroom and I put him in the cot and leave the door open so he can still see me. I’ve tried reading over Christmas but again he has no focus on anything. I struggle with feeding because he’s too alert to what’s happening elsewhere. And he doesn’t like being in his pram

Ms Rachel is on YouTube she’s great, kids LOVE her. I don’t know what it is about her but she has all the kids attention - we have to limit it 😂 she’s very educational too, I do recommend. Baby’s banging their heads on surfaces is normal at this age, albeit very weird! Have you tried a suction toy for the high chair? We rotate 2-3 and it keeps him focused whilst I feed him because my baby hates his high chair. Have you spoken with your health visitor? I’m sure they’ll be able to give you some tips?

@Parris tbh my Hv really isn’t great, they still give outdated advise on how long to sterilise for. And when I’ve mentioned his past sleeping they just brush it off, and I’ve spoken about weening before and they made me feel like crap because he loves pouch and jar food.. I haven’t got any suction toys so I will look into it and see what I can find thank you x