I agree to suggest they come at different times. It will be overwhelming enough with your 1st as you and your husband try to figure out a good flow for how to maneuver the newborn stage/ your new life. Other suggestion would be to have them stay in a hotel if the campsite is too much? Many hotels offer a weekly or even monthly rate if you ask. Or park the camper on your driveway?
I should have clarified in the postâŠ.Sadly asking them to come at different times we feel is not a fair option and our driveway due too steep for the 5th wheelâŠdrive is on the list for repair to accommodate visits in the futureâŠjust not in time for baby đ
I would set the boundary of needing your mom, nursery available, etc. to your husband and have him talk to them about it/ask if they can financially make it work. If not, have him tell them they can stay a shorter time they can afford and/or come at a later date! Then it wonât feel unfair as you had mentioned, itâs just the boundary/whats available!
We did IVF and then moved to another state too, so I can sympathize with your dilemma. Our plan as it stands right now, is for the birth to be just me and my husband. Our momâs will take turns coming to visit once we are discharged from the hospital so we can have some help for a little longer before I go back to work. Iâm just not sure which mom will come first and I also donât want either one to feel less than.
@MJ Itâs not that we want to be by ourselves by any means right off the bat (after a week or so yes to figure out our daughter), just hormonally lately I have been overwhelmed and I just donât want to set myself up for failure after she is born with having everyone here and not âin a spaceâ if that makes sense? If we had an extra bedroom, it would be easier or if we could park our camper at our house it would be fine. We would all be together but not on top of each other.
Congratulations on your baby!! Thatâs a sticky situation! Iâd reconsider just paying for the campsite. Youâve waited so long for this babyâŠyou donât want to be miserable with everyone crammed in your space while you try to bond with baby. It might not be ideal, but at least youâd have space and peace of mind
My father in law lives far away and he is visiting in April to give us a month to settle in and heal before dealing with visitors. Family should also be there to support you and your spouse, not just see the baby.
Oh man, family dynamics can be tough! Iâm all for lovingly setting your boundaries for what is best for you and your husband, especially based on what you feel like you will need to have the least amount of stress to take care of yourself after giving birth and taking care of your baby. If your mom is the one you need during that time for those reasons, thatâs ok!! Itâs not about whoâs allowed or not allowed to stay or see the baby or help or anything, itâs just about what you need to heal and adjust to things. I think talking to your husband about having a conversation just saying like âwe are so excited for you guys to come and appreciate everything. my mom is staying with us to help with nights and adjusting to everything, we wish we had more space and could have everyone but we just cant. We have the camper, we just know it costs. Otherwise would you rather come another weekend? Let us know what you guys want to do or we can brainstorm some ideas.â
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Can you suggest they come at different times? You can say youâre so grateful for the visit and help and know how hard the newborn trenches will be so you would love to have visitors for more time rather than all the visitors at once?