A on Peanut: Visitor Dilemma

A · 2025-01-08T20:26Z

We have waited 15 years for our miracle 🌈 baby, after a long fertility road we were successful via IVF. We have moved to a new state, away from family/support. As our due date approaches we are encountering a visitor issue…my mom and inlaws plan to be here for her birth (as everyone is very excited and has waited so long for her arrival). Our home here is much smaller here and we only have 1 spare bedroom. Alternatively we do have a large 5th wheel camper that could be set up at a very nice local campground. I feel it’s best my in laws stay in the camper and my mom stay at our home in case I need something (my mom is also more in tune with exactly how my husband and I roll, how we want to raise our daughter and the things we want and do not want). The issue is financially my in laws do not have the $ to spend on a camp site for X amount of days or weeks (however my mom does), my husband has mentioned paying for the campsite but I also do not feel that is in our best financial interest to be spending such a significant amount of $ when our income will be less than our standard during maternity leave. My in laws are also terrible planners (which is stressing me out, I’m a planner) and have mentioned an air mattress and just “staying like they did before”, which when we moved my mom and in laws all stayed in our home, but the room they slept in with the air mattress before is now the nursery. We will need this space once the baby is here and I’m kinda OCD about things being in place and such. What is a good way to approach the situation or ask if they can somehow make the camper situation work? We don’t want anyone to feel unwelcome, but I’m gonna need my Momma with me if y’all know what I mean?!? This Momma desperately needs advise for this situation 🙏