Potty training 🥲🙃

Hey mommas! I need advice! I'm a first time mom, my little man just turned 2 (Dec 8th) and well, he's pretty much terrified of the potty? At 19/20 months old, he was absolutely extatic so proud of himself for peeing on the potty for the first time. I think it happened 1 or 2 more times after that. Then very ubruptly absolutely will not go within 3 feet of the potty. When momma says she has to go potty he loves taking my hand, leading me to the bathroom then pointing to the potty saying "momma potty here" 🥲😂. So then I try to take the opportunity to say "Qoen go potty too with momma? " it's an immediate no, and he leaves the bathroom. If I try to push it any more it ends with him crying, dad and I trying anything and everything for bribery and it's no no no to everything.

We've always made sure to not "force" "punish" anything to do with the potty. There really is no reason he's all of a sudden so scared. And it's even with his toddler pottys! We have the one with the steps you set it on the toilet, we have the seperate toddler size potty seat (baby shark themed), and he has his own mini toddler toilet you can move anywhere. It doesn't flush or make any noise, it just looks like a toilet and you dump it out when your done.

So........ With all that, anyone have any advice? We were so happy and sure he'd be ready early, the signs were there! Now we're completely back to square one.

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I think it’s just a phase. We got out LG toddler potty and the one with the stairs. In the beginning she was excited then next she was scared to go near or sit..it lasted few months. Now she started sitting on it sometimes if I say she need to do 💩 but she does t do anything. Just sits with her clothes on and pretends. I’m thinking of potty training but I think maybe she is not ready yet as she doesn’t pull down or up the pants herself. To make her used to the potty itself we played with her sending her animal toys to do 💩 there . I think that help with being scared

my son hates sitting on the potty but we haven’t tried standing. How did you get yours to hold his penis. We are an all girl household so we don’t have a male figure to show him. I contemplated sending him to my brothers a weekend to teach him but then thought that would be weird. I’m lost on boys standing up though 😅

Following! My boy doesn't seem scared of it as such, but just refuses to go to it after he was so excited about it a few months ago. He used to tell us when he needed it or at least needed a new nappy but now doesn't tell us until after it's happened and tries to stop us changing him so it seems like he is going backwards from being ready.

Have you taken his nappies away?

You need to fully commit and take them off (safe for his lunchtime nap and bedtime).

You will have multiple accidents.

Pop him on mid wee or poo so you catch a bit and make a HUGE fuss. Stickers, clapping, jumping, call people over to look and praise.

He will get there.

We started just before 2nd bday

Try stickers and rewards chart and keeping some fun books/toys in the toilet next to the potty. I’ve noticed it’s really hard for my daughter to leave an activity to come toilet so I’ve been saying bring it with you and she’ll happily come then

Follow his lead. It will be 10x harder if he’s not ready. Understanding & bladder control isn’t always ready early. It’s a novelty to begin with which can seem like they’re ready when they’re not

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭