Friends since having kids

Just having a rant here or looking for other peoples experiences When everyone had their babies and/or when their babies were older past 6 months did you find that your non child “friends” never included you or kind of just forgot about you and never checked in despite your whole pregnancy being your friend and inviting you everywhere and also once the baby was born they wanted to come over but now that the babies/kids are older they don’t really see you, ask how you’re doing or include you in group activities with other friends who you used to go out with all the time, I feel like I’ve basically lost all my friends since having my daughter Im 20 and my partner is 22 for reference of age group if that makes a difference

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First of all, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m in a similar position. When I first announced I was pregnant, my friends were so excited and I caught up with them often. It wasn’t until I was about 7 months pregnant that I realised no one really checked in on me lately. I understood because sometimes life is busy. Fast forward to now, none of my ‘friends’ has met my son yet and he’s nearly 9 months. I get an occasional ‘merry Christmas/happy new year’ in our group chat but not one has reached out personally. I’ve sent multiple texts to one ‘close’ friend in particular with no response yet they reply every now and then in the group chat. I’ve tried so hard to see my ‘friends’ and after many many postpartum breakdowns I’ve just given up. They don’t get the pleasure to know my son nor know what’s going on in my life anymore. It’s so heartbreaking and when I really think about it I get so upset but at the end of the day, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink

@Caitlin this is all so true but it’s also made us realise who is real and who isn’t which teaches us who we should be having around our kids, it used to really upset me but I’ve come to realise my family is so so much more important and I’d much rather hang out with my little family than anyone else🥰

Yep I’m the same! Honestly nothing id rather do than spend time and make memories with my little family 🥰 hope you’re okay x

@Caitlin I’m okay, thanks for listening/sharing. I hope you’re also okay🙂more kids might fill the loneliness?🤣🤣

Happy to chat with you, would love a virtual friend to say this stuff too 😂 idk how this works but if you can friend me or find me at all, I’d love to chat ☺️ and yes, more kids 🤣🤣

@Caitlin just sent you a message😊

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