Guilty

I feel so guilty because I’ve sent my girl to preschool this morning kicking and screaming because she wanted me so bad, she hasn’t has a poo since Saturday which I think is why she wanted me to badly. I feel so bad but the more I keep her off the more she doesn’t want to go I feel terrible.

The reason she hasn’t pooped is because she will not poo anywhere but at home unless she realllyyyy has to and we have been busy the last few days so no time for her to go.

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Hey 👋🏾 mamma!
I hear you and I understand how you are feeling. Those first few days or weeks is mega hard. I remember crying when leaving mine at nursery. However, once they get familiar, they end up really loving it and you will look back and smile at this current time.
It helps if you speak to a friend or another mumma to get your nerves at ease. Also think of all the social skills that your LO will be learning.
Hope this helps x

she’s been there 5 months now and every day is a battles some worse than others:(.
I’d love to talk to someone other than my boyfriend but I’ve got no friends and no mum friend especially

It's hard isn't it. Honestly it took my daughter a good 6-9 months to feel fully settled and excited to go to nursery, I thought I'd made a huge mistake because she was so quiet and shy at nursery and seemed so unhappy when she came home.

But once they do get settled you'll see the benefits, it's so lovely hearing them talk about their little friends and how funny X person was when they did X. She's come on leaps socially and physically and is learning so much.

it is so lovely and I know she has fun it’s just trying her to go, I don’t drive so my parents take her in which I think makes it harder because I’m not with her at drop it

My daughter has been going to the same nursery since just before her first birthday and we still have days where she clings to us and says she doesn't want to go. But once she's there she always has a great time.
These little people of ours are going through a lot of big feelings and trying to be independent. It's hard but we just need to acknowledge their feelings and give them some things they can control!
Good luck with the 💩 situation though - that must be mega uncomfortable for her!

It’s so hard when they are like that because all you want to do is pick them up and keep them home with you. My girl is yet to start, she will be going in September and although she’s more than ready she’s never left with anyone apart from us or the odd occasion my mum or her older siblings, so I know we will have a lot of tears. As long as your little one is settling not long after being dropped off know she’s having a great day it’s common for children to cry at drop off and pick up when they see you again, you are there safe space. Fingers crossed she toilets soon and starts feeling more comfortable and hopefully that will help too. ❤️

I’m Lucky she does settle in as soon as she walks in, they are great at distracting her, it’s just seeing her in that state screaming for me it’s horrible

That’s great she settles straight away but it is heart breaking seeing them like that, hopefully over time she will get more settled and not get so upset xx

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?