Am I doing ok?

Such gorgeous hair !! I think you’re doing really well and don’t need help unless you feel otherwise. If I may comment she’s too young for braids or anything like that. Maybe just reduce hair wash to one a week ?

Most people will want you to do something with her hair and find it lazy or not neat if you don’t. You’re not doing anything wrong. Only thing I would say is to wash it less. Black hair typically only needs washed twice a month. Once a week if that makes you more comfortable. Just use water to brush her hair out. But definitely get the baby a bonnet for nighttime

@Bola i just braided my daughter’s hair and she’s two. So I agree with that.

You are doing great personally I don’t like Cantù products I used Ouidad on my daughters hair. Keep doing what you’re doing ! I also get my daughter’s hair braided sometimes too but I didn’t start till she was 4.

My friends listen to everyone else and always do their kids’ hairs. Then asks me how I got my daughter’s hair so long. And gets mad when I say I leave it alone. I only wash once a week unless there’s food in it, brush it out and put a bonnet on them. Now it’s to the middle of her back

Oh and I forgot to mention the bonnet, it’s too early for that as well. It’s much safer to use silk/satin bedsheets then eventually pillowcase before moving on to bonnet

@Mohannahas I also started braiding my daughter’s hair after she turned two.

My MIL is also Caribbean and has made comments on my daughter’s hair but I ignore her. Your baby’s hair is beautiful and you are on the right track in looking after it and kudos to you for even asking whats the best thing to do.

You’re doing great! Only thing id say hun is cantu can be really drying, aunt Jackie’s is amazing especially for little ones x

Oh yeah. Definitely stop Cantù. I use Aveeno. You might have to try different things to see what works for your daughter. Cantu will dry it out as people have stated

Silk sheet, water to brush. Babies hair is beautiful, good job! I'd just use coconut oil tbh, still very young and would wash every 2 weeks. Afro hair is good to maintain natural oils and not wash away. Our hair doesn't get greasy like straight hair, it won't be dirty so no need to wash that often.. SIL may assume you can't plait, and wants to help. maybe just say you are planning to do it/learn yourself bit you'll let her know if you need tips. I'd take up the offer when baby gets older, plaiting can be time consuming x

Her hair is beautiful and you are doing a fab job! Aunties doing hair is a cultural practice in many African and Carribbean communities. I would like to hope that is what she meant rather than suggesting it's because you can't do it or need support. Your current routine for her sounds good and cantu is fine. A bonnet is helpful but she is so young I would use a satin/ silk pillow case in the meantime. Keep in mind that your daughter's hair is not entirely afro/carribbean given that she also has Asian heritage. I can see this from the texture in the photo so this may mean her hair would need to be washed more often than is typically advised for afro/carribbean hair. People will have lots of advice for you, be selective about what you take on, you know your child better than anyone. Watch youtube videos with similar textured hair, monitor how her hair responds when you experiment with her routine and don't be so hard on yourself.

Thanks for all the help and advice and love. I think SIL meant it in a bitchy way because I said I’d prefer silk pillow case or sheets while she’s so young. I also said I’d braid or plait her hair when SHE wants it done. I do intend to learn but babies hair is very much Indian texture with curls so I don’t know how much it will actually stay. Cross that bridge later. Will look into alternatives to Cantu because I do find her hair is dryer at the ends with that. And will wash it less but comb out previous products in bath with just water.

6 months old?? Nothing needs to be done at this point but was and condition and hair cream. Be careful about too much product build up as this can actually be drying especially over time. I'd look into natural rinses as in diluted acv so products will go a long way. Looks amazing and maybe they just want you to know they can help.