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Young single moms to 3+ kids advice

I need some uplifting words right now. I am only 26 with 4 kids and going through a divorce. I’m not sure how to do it all on my own financially or otherwise. I have nothing to my name so I’m starting completely over. They’re all so little still too… then the thought of dating in the far far far future sounds impossible and honestly scary for many reasons. I feel like by the time I’ll be able to look up and find love when my kids are grown up, I’ll be old and probably past the point of either bitter or extremely gullible. I’m so sad that this family I wanted so bad and love from my kids father is absolutely tarnished. I feel like all my happy moments(pregnancies, birth, etc) were robbed. No one understands how afraid I am with so many kids depending on me… it’s like talking to a wall with all of them. I don’t need to hear “you got this” “you’ll figure it out” etc. I need someone to let it all out to and cry. My heart is completely shattered 💔 I feel so lost.

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I feel you...do you have extended family around you to give you a hand?

😓🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼 damn mama I wish I could give u a hug and a helping hand . I say as hard as this sounds but maybe have BD take the oldest kids if he is a safe dad. If not then get all the money u can get out of him. Get with a lawyer. Get help from government.

I’m so sorry. You’re in a really tough position. You definitely need someone to talk to—a hotline or a social worker. You can probably get a social worker through a local clinic and just have someone in your court following along with you as you go. I know “you got this” feels hard to hear, but it is so true. You’re going to be ok. I will also say, it might feel good to pray to God. And I say that as someone who grew up without religion. If you can connect with a higher power in any way that works for you, it will help get you through.

Get government help. It might break your ego or your pride. But you have little ones that you got to look after. And if no one is there to help, you need to find a way. And raise those children to be strong just like their mother. It's gonna be a hard road ahead, but it will get better. It's literally you and your babies at the end of the day

If he is safe I’d take the 2 youngest and he should take the 2 oldest. I struggle a lot with my 2 not to talk of 4. I m so sorry u going through this🥹

I was in the same boat you were in 2018. I feel what you're going through. Please reach out to me.