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Sorry I'm not much help but also think I'm in the same boat. I have health anxiety and I find the week running up to my period it's literally horrific. I know when I'm 7 days before coming on, because I completely change and I feel it, it's horrible. Along with the anxiety stepping up I also have mood swings and same as you, can go 0-100 over nothing. It's a really horrible feeling. I've been thinking about going to the doctor's about it but I don't know if they'll just say it's your hormones therefore there's nothing we can do?? I don't know. But you're not alone ❤️

@Laura im glad it’s not me although done want to be glad you’re experiencing it. Its horrible, i struggle so much with bedtimes as i just wnst the time to myself, already over stimulated and just want peace but freak out if its taking longer to get kids settled 💤 I feel awful if I act out but feel like all I do is shout and scream but I know it’s just cos im irritable and have to much high expectations over literally stupid stuff! I think ill need to speak to someone but im scared they’ll think im unfit mum 😞

You're not an unfit mum, if you were you wouldn't be having those worries because you wouldn't care! You clearly care a lot. I can relate as well, I feel so bloody awful when I lose it. My son is a couple of weeks into potty training and he needed a wee in the shop today so took him to the toilets and he refused to go. If it was any other week, I know I would have been so calm and rational and understood that it's just him still learning and adjusting, but I just snapped and got so frustrated about it. Back at home I felt like the worst mum in the world. I talked to him and told him I was so sorry and mummy shouldn't have got angry, I was wrong etc. He gave me a cuddle and a kiss and all is right in his world again. It doesn't make us unfit parents, as long as we're taking the steps to try and fix it/help it? That's how I'm trying to see it anyway. It's really draining and it's getting me down a lot as well xx

@Laura I didn’t even have the energy for potty training just yet. I try but he doesn’t do anything and I have people keep telling me I should have done it by now etc. It’s an awful feeling that was me tonight trying him to bed, I thought he was tired enough, we were cuddling on the floor then he said he wanted to go up to bed let him, stayed stroking his head etc and he’s just tossing nad turning, I left to go cook food, check on him and he’s in bed playing with a few toys, I put them on the shelf and he kept crying for them and then i chucked them away and shouted it was bedtime, he obviously got up set. I felt AWFUL I truly did and put the toys back, gave him a kiss and cuddle, said sorry and cuddled him till he fell asleep! I still feel awful. I know if it wasn’t the time of the month I wouldn’t have acted like that and have been more patient 😞 I’ve tried to just ignore and walk away for a few mins when I feel myself get wound up but feel like the only release is to let it out

Re potty training you absolutely don't need to have done it by now they're not even 3 yet! I only started because he was literally asking to use it he was so ready 😂 but I have a niece who's 4 and only just trained. So honestly don't stress there or put pressure on yourself especially when you're navigating this as well. Bless you, I've been exactly the same when fighting bedtimes too. I think it's made worse because you know any other time you just wouldn't act like that, but you literally can't stop yourself. I feel it inside me but I can't help it. My mood and personality just changes, then as soon as my period comes it's like a release and I'm fine again

@Laura yeah I’m not worrying. One step at a time. I thought he was ready as he was tkaing his nappy off and climbing on the toilet and playing on the potty and he knows what to do as he makes a pee sound and like twinkles his bits pretending to go but doesn’t. I know if he done it once that would be it. Yes I feel like any other time it wouldn’t have bothered me and I feel the same can just feel it building up. Will try hard next time to just take a few minutes and go back

I think it's a good idea to walk away for a few minutes, I'm going to try that too. I do think I'll go to the doctor's, maybe they can even point me in the direction of some self help or something if nothing else?

@Laura yeah I think the only way really is to go to the doctors or soemthing maybe there’s some tablets to help balance out the hormones