Grieving and being pregnant is so much
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After losing my son, I had my daughter and am now pregnant again. When she was born, no one would have guessed that I spent the pregnancy in a constant anxiety attack. She is a happy and healthy child. I am not afraid to be seen as an anxious and worried pregnant lady, because that's exactly what I am. And no one should expect different - we have been through hell and back. Normally, when someone goes through trauma, they are allowed to avoid reminders of that for the rest of their lives, but for us we can't if we want to grow our famalies. Imagine someone was in an horrific car crash, and then, in order to move forward with their lives, they were forced to sit in a similar car, on the same road, worried about a future crash, for 9 months 24/7? I think we would all be forgiving and understanding if that person struggled! Be kind to yourself - you are doing the best you can! Therapy is important, friends are important and you will get through this. I'm so sorry for your loss x
Guilty, no. Anxiety, absolutely. This was me 10 years even, after losing my son and then being pregnant with my daughter. I really suggest talking to a grief counsellor or your Dr about it all, as it makes for PND to be higher after having your baby.